Thank you Shay.
I appreciate your view on the term evil. Whether or not it is ignorance or conscious ruthlessness, the harmful effects towards others remain the same. Your holistic way of viewing lives reminds me of Tao's Ying & Yang.
Cara
Yes, that is especially true of children who have been abused. But, as any grown person who has gone through therapy (successfully
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) can tell you, it is far easier to understand and find forgiveness for a parent whom they have come to see is ignorant, as opposed to one who caused intentional harm. When you are a child, you have no power; no choice - but once you are grown, you can begin again and choose to become healthy and whole. This means shifting your choices from attachment to abusive people, to people who are healthy and whole.
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Getting stuck on "blame" or "victim" tapes can only keep you from growing, emotionally and spiritually.
But in either situation, it us up to the harmed person to create and nurture their own healing process, and become who they were always meant to be. I love the term "making lemons out of lemonade." With insight and determination, all wounds can become great gifts.
Shay (student of the Tao)