We had this thing (i have it with all 3 boys) - no matter how upset or what had happened during the day - we always said - i love you - i haven't stopped saying it - but he's stopped answering....i don't want him to have that influence - but my fear is he will end up acting just like his father.....
Keep saying it. Kids pull away, they rebel - but if they know deep inside that you love them, then they always have something to come back to.
You can never say "I love you" too much. Even if they don't say it back right now - they will one day.
I have a 17 yr old son, and an 11 yr old daughter (and a 5 yr old son - but he doesn't really fit into this particular conversation).
You have to look sometimes for the positive - but it can be found.
I've noticed that it seems to be easier to find the positive in strangers than in our own family. I think specifically of my own dad when I say this. He would never say things to an outsider that he says to people in our family. Why in the world should we be more polite to people that we don't love as much? That makes no sense - but most of us do it.
I think we get caught up in wanting our kids to be
better that we put too much pressure on them, and forget to look for the wonderful that is already there.