BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids This is making the Internet rounds from the UK

I know we're not supposed to feed the trolls, but I felt compelled to reply. I tried to make my reply constructive. Apologies if I did not succeed.

There are so many false assumptions and misinformation that you people go by re: kids and parenting that you'd think YOU would be interested in getting the story straight.
What false assumptions? That the word "parent" is also a verb? That many of the people (not all) who have kids who don't understand that? That kids are expensive? That poor parenting often equals unruly kids? Can you prove any of these assumptions false?

*...because children = love, you are willfully neglecting yourselves from opportunities to love and be loved.
This, my friends, is a Bingo, put forth by someone who does not differentiate between earned love and biologically inherent love. I prefer to be loved by someone because of how I speak, act, and think, not because I am the food providing presence with a biological link. Children do not equal real love; it is extremely conditional. I'd bet you'll change your tune on this one when you have a teenager.
By the way, I am loved. I am not denying myself anything but heartache and poverty by not having kids. I know this because I know myself and my situation. Adding a baby to my family would be bad for us all in many ways. No amount of love would change that.

*Purchasing babyfood is for retards...
I sincerely hope someone else is teaching your child(ren) methods of polite communication. I'm afraid you're a rather poor example. However, I applaud that you have found inexpensive, healthy methods of feeding your offspring. If you were to reword your proclamation about home-mashed baby food into gentler phrasing, and offer detailed suggestions, I'm sure your comments would be very welcome on a parenting forum. You should look into those.
I suspect you'll find them a more constructive place to be. After all, you are neither learning or teaching here. And the purpose of forums is just that. Learn, teach, and exchange. The exchanges here aren't exactly your cup of tea, so perhaps you'd be happier exchanging, learning, and teaching on a forum more suited to your interests. There are over 400 forums on this website, a large portion of which are devoted to parenting issues.

*No one envies anyone who can "spontaneously" eat granola for dinner at the computer. Who cares.
The point about the trail mix dinner is having the freedom to NOT plan a regular dinner if one is so inclined. Envy doesn't even enter into the equation on that one. We don't want your envy, just your respect.

*It IS different when you have your own. Your cats don't count.
I don't think my cat counts as a kid. If I thought so, I wouldn't have a cat. I always get a laugh out of this statement. I notice no one ever says "It's BETTER when it's your own." As for the veracity of the original version, I'm not going to find out. That's not not going to be part of my life.

*There's a juvenile quality to many of your comments and topics, many seem to be missing that level of maturity that only comes with having responsibility.
I have a lot of responsibility in my life. More than I can handle, actually. I even have some parenting responsibilities, in practice and financially. I am not juvenile. In fact, I'm aging too quickly in mind and body because of the constant stress of my responsibilities (and the joys of chronic pain, but that's a separate issue). Please don't think that the childfree are all carefree. That's a very inaccurate stereotype.


Robotrix, you might not believe me, but I'm going to say it anyway: We are people, just like you. In the real world, away from the keyboard, we may even be very similar. The difference between you and I is that I believe having a baby would be a detriment to my life. You find having a baby to have improved yours. We are probably both right. Please consider that.

If I met you in real life, I would literally slap your face. I SINCERELY hope you don't have children. Otherwise, I've been quite assured by your consistent posting that they are probably mentally challenged due to the fact that you smoked crack when you were pregnant/donating sperm.

Your posts have gone from slightly amusing annoyances to downright harassment, vulgarity, and abuse.

Actually, it's kind of interesting that our friend is starting to show his true colours. Start off kind of snippy, and then degenerate into stereotypes, and finally to personal abuse because we choose not to "see the light" and dare to disagree.

Whatever. Amusing. "wanders off to find the wine".

Hee hee! Funny last line Pikasam.

I had her on ignore user, but the temptation got to me after reading the responses and I caved in and read it. Wow. True colors is right. It must be a hard life to be that mentally ill and trying raise children. Scary is what it is for the future of society. Not that I recommend anyone read that garbage, but it was a lot more amusing than her last posts at least.

The thing about the mashed up food is like an obsession...she was ranting about that last time she showed up here. Random. I don't think worrying about buying jarred baby food was a big reason any of us chose to be CF. They grow teeth pretty quick. Still, I have this visual of her spitting up her chewed up food into her pre-teens' mouths, and gloating about her frugality.

Welp, for anyone who unclicked "ignore"---I don't know how long it will take for you to get it that your "clever" insults and assumptions directed at me mean nada...I find your board full of faleshoods and willful animosity towards a certain demographic, and I find that unjust. And contrary to your belief, I'm allowed to speak against it. If you were here complaining about unfair Time-Off schedules at work between parents and non-parents, or complaints about having to pay taxes for public schools where you have no children attending, that'd make sense. But instead you try to justify your hatred for certain people, and that sounds to me 2 stops short of a Klan. I'm in the minority here, but if you take this attitude into the real world, parents are hard-wired to protect their children and will show you which end is up.

I'm tired of you, too. Mostly the unclever responses you give. Yawn.

B-bye.