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Now really, this sort of thing can go into any number of already-started threads, but I was thinking if people wanted to just include little stories of parents acting terribly, this could be a place to do it. Apologies if this is very similar to other threads already out there!

I will go first:

Once I was shopping in a music store with a friend, and we were just perusing the CDs. Unbeknownst to me, a kid of about 4-5 had snuck up behind me and was standing right there. The way he announces his presence to me is by letting out a blood-curdling SCREAM at the top of his little lungs. It was AWFUL, the stuff of horror movies. And I reacted by cringing, shocked look on my face (he scared the [censored] out of me!), wide-eyed and with an "EEEK!" look on my face.

Well, the kid's dad started berating me. ME. Not his kid. Keep in mind that i didn't step on the brat's foot or anything and the dad knew this. No, he was berating me for reacting. He starts completely verbally abusing me.

"Oh, I guess you've never met a kid before, man, you are a terrible person. You are just an awful person. I'm glad I don't know you, hating kids like that." He kept going on and on about what an awful person I was.

I wish I could say I had some snappy comeback, but the shock of the scream combined with the verbal slap across the face from this moron of a breeder rendered me completely speechless.

I walked away very quickly, and my friend (who was still standing there) said he went on and on for a couple minutes about what an awful person I was.

Actually, this was probably about 4 years ago and I'm still upset about it. That guy really hurt my feelings. All because he was an idiot who didn't think it was his responsibility to discipline his brat. That was an eye-opening experience for me.

...By now people probably think I'm hopelessly violent, but I swear if I was in that situation... My fist, his mouth. At the very least a good slap and ME berating HIM for not teaching his child better than to scream like that, what if I had a weak heart, or asthma? A shock like that for no good reason would end up with HIM being sued for the hospital bill, that's for sure.

I know, and MAN, I wish I could have said something. The fact is, I'm a pretty jumpy person, and the kid had upset me, and then the dad made it even worse. It was awful.

Something like that would mean that kid would have his [censored] flat against the wall after I kicked the snot out of him just in self defense/automatic reaction... followed by me kicking the snot out of the f***tard 'father'.

Yeah I forgot to mention that, I probably would have backhanded the brat out of complete surprise. :P

It would be tempting to respond physically, but gosh, it would sure be awful to get arrested or sued. Maybe a good response would be to whip around and have your arm accidentally smack the kid. But, hard to come up with that when you're taken by surprise. I'm sorry you had that experience though Pinecone. I would still be [censored] about it too.

Here's mine...mother in giant black SUV driving through Costco parking lot. My DH and I are just leaving, crossing the parking lot to get to our car. DH has just had his 2nd hip replacement, and is therefore walking very slow. (His Dr. encouraged him to walk, and by then was off his walker, but still moving very slow and limping).

Woman in SUV is speeding toward us, and refuses to slow down or stop. DH has to RUN to get of her way. Her window is open, and he turns around and says something like "What are you thinking lady? I just had a hip replacement."

She flips him off and speeds away. Her kids heard the whole thing. Nice way to show your kids how to respect disabled people, eh?

I don't think I'll ever get over that. I WISH I'd had a big rock.

Pinecone - I wish I'd a been there.........I would have told that breeder off, with my favorite new remark about how Bob Barker was only half right when he said have your PETS spayed or nuteured.

And that woman trying to run down a man with a hip replacement. If he could have fallen and pretended she did it - wonder how she would have reacted then?

People nowadays really make me wonder.

That kind of behavior teaches kids that their parents are never wrong, no matter how bad their behavior is. I just love when someone behaves badly, and then acts like you are crazy for being upset.

I have a new story... we were at SuperTarget the other day, and a women was exiting the door we were entering. I kept walking in, and didn't automatically let her go first, which I'm sure is the norm for her. My husband said she looked annoyed that I entered the door before she could exit. And, meanwhile, she was monopolizing the whole doorway b/c she had the big @$$ double stroller. My DH was even annoyed. He's starting to notice this stuff more now that he knows me. I wish I would have seen her face.

Here's one of my experiences, it's kind of a long one.

My lovely next-door neighbor let her (then) 3 year old son wander the street unsupervised and he wound up in my front yard. Keep in mind that his mother was sitting on her front porch the whole time this happened. Our houses are separated by a bush that runs the length of our yard, but its only a few steps between our houses.

I was working in my garden and the boy walked right up and sat by me on the ground. He asked a million questions and wanted to play with me. He stuck around for about an hour and after a while I told him I was working and he should go home to his mother (I was getting tired of the 20 questions game.)

As he was only three, he didn't get the hint. After he tried to pick up my garden shears and cut my flowers with them, I sternly told him to go home to his mother. He got that pouty face and slowly walked down our garden path to the sidewalk. I watched him go to make sure he was safely on his way home.

Well, of course he tripped and fell on the cement sidewalk and let out a LOUD wail and started crying. I immediately ran to him to make sure he was ok (he was fine, not even a scratch). His mother then comes from out of nowhere and scoops him up and walks away without saying one word to me. I tried to tell her what happened but she just gave me a nasty look and took him home.

The best part - not even 10 minutes later the kid comes back into my yard again! No sign of mom. I had it with this [censored], so I packed up my gardening tools and went inside. The kid tried to follow me into my house! I told him he needed to go home and he wasn't welcome to come in my yard anymore without his mom or dad with him.

I was so ticked off that his stupid mother let him wander around unsupervised and basically used me for an hour of free babysitting! Then when her son gets "hurt" she gives me the death stare.

My husband tried to talk to her about the incident and told her that we were concerned for his safety when he wanders the neighborhood and would appreciate it if she would not let him in our yard. She said "Oh, my son is just so loving, he wants to be near you because he likes you." What an idiot! We could be child molesters for all she knows! Lucky for her son, we mean him no harm - we just don't want to provide free babysitting.

Whenever the boy comes into our yard now I just give him evil looks and tell him to go home because I don't want to get my butt sued off if her kid gets hurt on my property.

Sorry for the long post. This is an ongoing saga and it still makes me angry!

Oh gosh, that sounds awful cornishrex. I would have taken him by the hand and walked him back over to his own home and told his parents he was wondering the streets alone and that I was sure they were worried that he was suddenly missing....I'd make it sound as awful as I could for a parent to allow their small child to go around unsupervised without actually directing it toward the parent. He really could get hurt like that.

And frieda...I wish I would have had a rock too...Shame on that woman for being so disrespectful to a disabled person. My grandmother was disabled so I encountered similar things with her and know how you feel.