Man is pretty much genetically engineered to be promiscuous and unfaithful. Fidelity is not part of our mammalian genetic make-up.
Yes violence is illegal.... thanks to society - in some places, cannabalism is legal...
I'm talking about Western society where such law is prevalent. Where is cannibalism legal in The USA or the UK?
so is marrying 12 year old girls...
Not so.... there are some states in the USA where there are variable ages of consent for residential citizens....some are cobnsidered very young....
Infidelity is not an imprisonable offence. That was my point. It's a 'law' only insofar as Religious ethics are concerned.
I'd say both infidelity and physical abuse were on the same page (I've had both) ... both are saying 'I don't respect you'... in my opinion...
Well I've had both too. And I'd rather have to deal with my partner sticking his appendage in someone else, than sticking his fist in my face, or his boot on my throat.
To say "they're on the same page" is just ludicrous.
beating someone black and blue, breaking their bones and landing them in hospital with appaling wounds is not 'on the same page' as "Sorry honey, I slept with the Au Pair"!!
I also don't actually buy the 'Man is preprogammed to spread his seed' - there are men who never want kids and who can be faithful.. and men who do want kids who can be faithful...
Who the hell mentioned having kids...? That's not the question...And trust me, a man who's looking to be unfaithful certainly isn't going to want kids as a testimony of his inability to keep it in his pants!! So what's your point here, exactly....?
*also* look at animals... they have very few society bound 'laws' yet some animals, birds etc pair for life.... they don't have a 'biological need' to shag others... therefore I think it's a bit of a cop out when people throw the 'Oh.. but it's not the blokes fault.. he's MADE that way' comment at people...
First of all, the most faithful animals do fall into the bird kingdom. Almost no mammals have a tendency or urge to be so. We're mammals. Hence, we behave like mammals, Fidelity is a human-focussed condition. It doesn't come naturally.
This is just as relevant to females as males, by the way.
I'm not saying there's no 'fault' attached. As I said in my first post, if you can't stay faithful, don't make rash promises that you're going to be.
Plus, if my current partner was cheating on me, I would make damn sure that I made him realise that I had slept with other men as well (not that I have.. however it would probably dent his ego, a lot of cheaters seem to be hypocrites.. it's ok for them to cheat, but would be hurt if their partner cheated)
Sauce for the goose, sauce for the gander. I rest my case.