BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Does she have to stay?

No, she does not have to stay. Just be honest and say, "I think you misunderstood. I prefer not to have overnight guests and that is just the way I am - but, I will enjoy spending the evening with you."

You all are so great...thanks for all of your suggestions. This is really bad feeling situation and it really helps to hear from you I will be addressing the situation next week, although still not sure how I will handle it. You all have good suggestions. Keep them coming

As for her being interested in me for more than a friend....Gosh, I hope not!! I am a man only kind of gal Seriously though, I don't think she is interested like that...she has a very serious boyfriend, but I guess that doesn't mean she is interested in only men. Wow, I hadn't thought of that one...now I really, really don't want her to stay! ha ha

Honestly, I think she is just a more laid back kind of person than me...you know...whatever sounds fun is what she is up for. Not that I don't love fun, but I have boundaries such as this one. Plus, she is a little younger than me, so maybe it is the maturity level??? Maybe she hasn't gotten that college "hang out at whoever's house" thing out of her system??

I do agree though, that it was strange that she assumed an invitation to dinner meant a sleep over. I would never ever assume that with anyone.

Thought you'd like to know that I survived the situation. I just came out and told her that she misunderstood. Told her that I meant for us to have a few drinks after work and some dinner. Then, I explained that I would have a rough day that next day (which was actually very true) and shouldn't be doing a sleep over. I think she got the hint because we are planning to have dinner and drinks next week and she mentioned nothing about sleeping over Yay!

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Excellent. Good for you for speaking up too!