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[As for the original comment - I'd just look surprised and say "oh no, those can't be my children. Mine are down in hell, throwing a party behind my back and sneaking tequila. They're such BRATS!!"

[This is what I don't get either! One of my friends has told me several times that I need to have a baby so that I will be a better person. Yet, when I ask her how that would make me better, and how that kind of better is 'better' than a million other things I could do instead, she doesn't have an answer. I'm really getting tired of this dogma from people who haven't even given it a thorough philosophical thought to see if it's actually valid. ...ok rant over ...

I think it's just that the CF are free to do all sorts of things...I think that's where the selfishness/materialistic argument comes from...but how many people have a child as an "accessory"...or, without thought or planning or to manipulate someone into marriage or to make them whole...etc...
Who does more damage? The people having a child for the above reasons or the CF couple who install a temperature controlled wine room - they work and pay for?
I think the former is selfish because it involves an innocent third party...we are all free to spend our money as we choose - it's not selfish to work and save for a new TV or car...
I make no apologies for living the good life - we all make choices in life...
One of my colleagues just groans when he hears about our next trip or, he's forever complaining he'll die before he can retire/travel...(he has 5 sons)
"I've got 5 kids"...I usually respond..."well Simon, you were there when they were conceived"...He says forlornly..."I know, I know...."
We all have choices in life - you just have to take control and live the life of your choosing. It does take some strength - when I read about the pressure some people are under to have kids for a husband/wife/parents it makes me shudder - we only "go around" once...
Why would anyone allow someone else to dictate THEIR life plan?
Now...what have I done with those plans for our temperature controlled wine room?

Duane, I just told M that you and I hijacked a thread to discuss a ridiculous, hypothetical party starring a metaphorical hat. His response: "You have weird friends."

We should take that as a compliment, by the way.