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Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. After reading your posts, I am starting to feel a little better. However, it is still hard not to worry. I just have to remember to take everything one step at a time.

CF_Gal,
Sending good wishes your way. So sorry your dad and family is going through this.

Sometimes the best thing we can do to support people is to hold ourselves together so we're strong for them, and they don't have to worry about us. I know it seems impossible, and you certainly don't want to deny what they're going through, to them or yourself. Sometimes it feels like you're faking it to be brave, but from what I've seen it really helps, because faking it can eventually lead to really feeling it.

When my husband had cancer, he viewed himself as a warrior, and fought hard for his life. It was so inspiring to see, and I think it even buoyed his doctors' spirits, and helped them do their part better. It certainly helped me.

Although we cried together at first, while he was going through treatments I rarely showed him my fears, and took his lead in showing bravery. He did have a few friends call and cry to him about it, and he still remembers that being really detrimental to his mental state. It's perfectly okay to feel those feelings, and cry, just protect him from your fears. It seems like a small thing, but for my husband it made a huge difference. I still get credit for "being strong" during that time, but inside I didn't feel strong at all.

Take care of yourself right now, and hang in there. Good luck.

Hope it turns out ok for your dad. My heart goes out to you.

CF_GAL, I'm sending positive thoughts your way. My mom went through a heart attack in November 2006, and luckily, she came out of it OK, without having to do any major surgery, but she is on lots of meds at this point to keep her system regulated so that it hopefully won't happen again. Mom didn't fit the profile either - she is small and in pretty good shape, doesn't eat lots of unhealthy stuff, gets exercise, etc. Her main problem was stress, and we think that's what caused her heart attack - too much stressing and worrying all the time.

Anyway, I really hope it turns out well for your dad!

Thanks everyone for all of your thoughts, well wishes, and support...you all are really wonderful. You helped me not to worry as much, although I am sorry some of you had to go thru this with your familiy members (or that it happened to you specifically). And I took some of your advice on how to show my dad I was thinking of him and wanted to help even though I am so far away.

I thought you'd be interested to know that the heart cath was completed and they actually found no blockages! We are so relieved! However, there is something else causing his symptoms, so the docs still have to figure that out. Hopefully it isn't anything too serious. So, still worried about that, but at least I can stop worrying about his heart

CF Girl,

I hope so too. Sending white light to your dad and positive thoughts to you.

Take care.