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Hmmm...

My best decision was fixing my worst decision by divorcing my first husband. I can only imagine how awful my life would be if I'd stayed in that relationship.

And of course, marrying my current husband. I never imagined I could be so happy in a relationship!

Best decision I ever made...
Can't narrow it down to just one but my best decisions are:

1. Deciding to go for the biology/chemistry double major. I used to hate chemistry with a passion and was very frightened of the subject. But I actually like it and I enjoy knowing more about our world. Plus, I like the challenge. Many people are too scared to do something "harder" and I like being one of the brave few.

2. Not freaking out and running away from commitment. I've been with my bf for about 3 years now and I almost let my fear of "commitment" ruin a great relationship. I faced that fear and I've got a great relationship with someone I really love.

3. This is really lame, but getting my cat. She's been an unwavering friend and she keeps me sane. I like that she doesn't talk and annoy me like people do. Love you buffalo kitty!

It is also hard for me to narrow it down to one decision, so here goes the top decisions:

1) Moving away from the small town I grew up in and obtaining a college education

2) Keeping an open mind and taking full advantage of opportunities in front of me...that is how I am where I am today.

3) I have to agree with Kittybeep...getting my cat. When I found him, I was SOOO stressed. I bet my blood pressure was high, and I felt like I was aging by the minute. My new kitty saved me over. He eased all of the tension. I could feel it lift just by being around him! Till this day I say he was a God send.

1. Deciding to go to University and studying Law/Commerce (uncharted waters in my family & school)
2. Continuing to see a man my friends regarded as "too quiet & conservative"...he turned out to be my life partner & best friend (yesterday was our 19th wedding anniversary - we have been together for 26 years in August)
3. Buying our first home to the horror of our families and friends - an Edwardian terrace - our families called it "a slum" - we're currently restoring our 3rd home.
4. Making travel a priority at an early age.
5. Taking calculated risks with my career and achieving a reasonable life/work balance.

Love this topic! Here are mine:

-marrying my husband--I knew he was the one on our first date even though we waited 4 years to get married

-being an exchange student after high school to Germany; I learned so much (besides German!) about myself, the world, everything

-deciding to quit a well paying job to do something that really fulfilled me, even though I made less money--5 years later it is still worth it!

Best decisions I ever made:

1. Buying a house with my now DW 10 years ago -- the cheapest in the development (130k at the time), which was straining the budget at the time. Now I don't even think about the mortgage payments ($1300).

2. Finding and taking care of DW for 12+ years. It makes life worth living.

3. Gaining a truly life-long older woman friend by helping her, literally, escape from an emotionally draining marriage from a scumbag cheater of a husband 4 years ago. That is the most important thing that I did not have to do, but I did because I .. had to. I couldn't stand watching a dear friend suffocate and wither away into nothing while I did nothing. Today, she has been happily married to the man of her dreams for coming up on two years and is living the life she always wanted.

Of all those items, the first two are things I would have done because I felt I had to do them for someone who really, truly mattered in my life every day with me, by my side.

The last thing is what I am most proud of, because I truly did not have to do it -- I did not have to do ANYTHING if I didn't want to. But sometimes, you have to act, no matter what, otherwise you will feel guilt for the rest of your life that you will never forgive yourself for. The silent scream of help, the between the words begging and pleading, when no one else would listen but you do, is what can't be ignored. It is easy to be a friend when times are easy. It is damned difficult to be a friend when a person's life is literally on the line. If you let go, they lose everything. You know the path is going to be hard and difficult, but you do it anyways -- because you have to.

That was the best decision I ever made -- saving a friends life, just because.

Ditto. After being someone's girlfriend/wife since I was 14, turning my back and finding myself single at 30 was the scariest thing I've ever done. I spent six years after my marriage ended "finding myself", and if I had to do it all again, I would.

My other best decision was moving to Calgary. Knowing nobody, just picking up and packing myself and three animals off to the other side of the world. Six years later (already!) I have great friends, great opportunities and a wonderful life. I love it here, and it looks like the "five year plan" is now a ten year plan, and counting!

Great thread, bassgrl!

Thanks! It's great to be able to have this 'conversation.' This is the type of subject matter that tends to offend parents, although it really shouldn't. Life isn't 'one size fits all,' which is all the more obvious seeing everyone's different responses.

My top 5:

1. NOT marry the first or second man who asked me. I was silly enough to say yes to but came to my senses in time.

2. Moving away from home to go to school and becoming my own person and living life on my own terms without any regard to what my family thought.

3. Living with my now DH for 7 years before getting married and having the strength to tell my parents before-hand and never lying about it.

4. Having the courage to quit a high-paying, prestigious job when the stress got to be too much without having a backup.

5. Changing careers to have better a work/life balance.

These are awesome posts - it's been great getting such an in-depth glance on what you guys are all about!

The best decision I ever made was to fly to Christchurch to meet the guy that I had been getting along with via internet/phone.

My parents had recently split up and the whole family was a mess. I was depressed, unsupported, and lonely... and nobody really knew it because I painted a smile on my face. Somehow, I met my now-fiance online, and we got on so well that I actually opened myself up emotionally to him.

So I booked a short holiday to actually meet him. I have never ever regretted the decision. I really discovered love, and it led me to move towns, change jobs, have a great relationship, be more confident...

Best best best decision ever.