BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Quick survey on age

I think I would rather lie about my age and say i am OLDER so I look really young!!! Most Women got it all backwards!

I am 25 and single.

Wow - thanks for all of the great responses, everyone. It really is nice to see the broad range of ages and backgrounds and how we all came to our decisions at different times in our lives and for different reasons.

i'm 36 and my DH is almost 38. ironically enough for me i started to realize that i didn't want kids for sure was when one of my BFF got pregnant. she was the first one in my close circle so it was a real wake up call for me and i went through i have to say it hell for the next 2 yrs. or so. after much counseling and realizing that just b/c i was an only child and my parents wanted grandkids that i did indeed have a choice is when i really became CF. it's been 4 yrs. since then and i'm so happy. i'm 110% sure that i dont' want kids and the older i get the happier i am that i dont' have them. i actually like kids and i work with them but i definitely dont' want the 24/7 thing. i like my alone time and the life my DH and i have now.

i always never ever wanted to get preggers. when i thought that we would have a child i wanted to adopt. maybe it was b/c i'm adopted and i'm very grateful to my parents for that.

also oddly enough now looking back i think i was more into the idea of adopting than the actual thing. i still think it's a great thing to do but that still entails being a parent which i dont' want.


indigo

My DH & I are both 29, turning 30 later this year. We've never wanted children but thought that may change as we aged. It didn't. We were married at 18 and knew we were way too young to be married and especially too young to have kids. Here we are 11 years later, happy and confident in our decision to be CF. And since I found this forum I now feel 10 times better about that decision. My sister is on her 3rd child , 4 of my friends just had babies and 3 more friends are due this year. It's safe to say I get bingoed quite often. Although I'm new here and haven't had much time to read & post just yet, just knowing this site is here really helps me cope.

I'm 33 (will be 34 in just a few weeks) and husband is 32 (will be 33 in a little over a month).

I'm 37 and DH is 42.

We have discussed this issue many times, and we both have felt in the past, at best, ambivalent to having children. With the exception a couple of years ago when I went through a big excitement in wanting to have a baby and name him/her. Eventually we discussed names (which was the fun part) but hadn't actively started trying. Then, after we found names, all the excitement went away and we were hit with thinking about the reality of having a baby. The lifestyle changes, the birth, the fact that I would do most of the household/children responsibilities, medical concerns. Then I found this forum online. I quickly learned what CF meant and a little while after, I decided to be CF. DH is accepting and supportive of my decision. I suppose that now makes him CF too!

I am 48 and never had the desire for kids.

I'm 21 and my DH is 22 and "we're way to young to decide". I watched my sister give birth when I was 14 and never recovered lol. I really think I became set on being CF around 17-18 when I was dating my ex. He loved kids and couldn't wait to have em. I remember thinking that I never wanted that much responsibilty. I know my husband would have kids if I wanted them but I know I never do. Even though everyone says I'll change my mind. Except my mom, she knows I have NO patience whatsoever and no maternal instincts--excpet for animals (seriously). Anyways it's that even though we're me and my DH are so young, people ask "are you thinking about having kids anytime soon?" for one thing we're still in our early 20's and not everyone wants kids!

You're all a bunch of spring chickens

I'm 64 and knew from the time I was...hmmm....maybe 3 or 4 that I never wanted kids. Never was a fence sitter on the issue, just didn't want anything to do with kids at all even when I was one. Heck, I didn't even want anything to do with dolls.

Sad to see that nothing much has changed in the way of societal pressures to reproduce in all these years. Sounds like most of you are having to deal with the same "you'll change your mind" stuff that I had to put up with for years.

I find it interesting that so many CF'ers are so into pets. So am I. I love my dogs & cats and go absolutely ga-ga over newborn lambs and crias.