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Good one, but I think that falls under diaper change This is fun! My life feels so awesome compared to what it could be.

LOL! Rickshaw! Excellent! Every time I see a double stroller from now on, I'm going to yell out, "rickshaw!" Well, I probably won't. That's probably some sort of racial slur that I don't know about.

Great list, Happy, I couldn't have said it better, and I'm not sure whether these are included, but here are a couple I just thought of:

- Lack of time to play with or care for pets, because free time is devoted to childcare.
- Inability to drop everything and go on a short getaway or vacation without lots of preparation.
- Inability to buy fun new things for ourselves when special financing deals come up because we won't have money to pay it off before interest kicks in, due to all of the child-related expenses.

Thanks for your input, gals. I didn't mention the pet item, and that is true. I mentioned not being able to get away, but not specifically vacations. But that's true - can't get away, or you can take the kids, but probably to Disney World (but I admit I like Disney World. but it's more annoying when kids are complaining, hot, tired, don't want to walk.)

I thought of a few more, too...

85. Kids only stay little and cute for a little while
86. It's a thankless job
87.You give up your life for 20 years, and when the kids are grown, they just leave. I mean, that's what they are supposed to do, it's healthy for kids to move away, and do their own thing. But what do the parents get out of it? I guess some people are experience based, and just enjoy the experience of parenting while it lasts.
88. Concerns about finding a good, trustworthy and safe babysitter, or daycare. I literally know of someone back home that left their child with a babysitter, and when they returned home, the baby was dead. I think she shook the baby. Can you imagine? Knowing myself, I don't think I could handle using a lot of babysitters.

Another thing I've always looked forward to:

You put effort into making them a meal and they think nothing of refusing to eat it or screaming at you that they hate it.

Yeah, that would put me over the edge! At least if I don't make much of an effort preparing food, who cares? But I would probably work harder at it if I had kids. Another reason I don't want them, I don't want to be stuck doing all of that.

Wow!! Great list! You've inspired me to make my own!! As for your number 85...I'd prefer it if they grew up quickly as I prefer older kids so I can interact with them in a normal voice and they can tell me what is wrong rather than crying hysterically :-)

And regarding number 87...parents are always parents if they are good parents. Just because your child moves out doesn't mean you are no longer needed. I still want to hear my parents' opinions, etc. That doesn't mean I will do what they say, but at least I heard the "older, more experienced, supposedly wiser opinion." Sometimes they enlighten me, and I take their advice. So, many times, the parent's role evolves from changing diapers and disciplining to being a consult and friend.

And as far as making a meal and someone refusing to eat it or yelling they hate it....I would definitely go over the edge on that one! How rude!? And they don't even care! Ugh!

Wow!! Great list! You've inspired me to make my own!! As for your number 85...I'd prefer it if they grew up quickly as I prefer older kids so I can interact with them in a normal voice and they can tell me what is wrong rather than crying hysterically :-)

And regarding number 87...parents are always parents if they are good parents. Just because your child moves out doesn't mean you are no longer needed. I still want to hear my parents' opinions, etc. That doesn't mean I will do what they say, but at least I heard the "older, more experienced, supposedly wiser opinion." Sometimes they enlighten me, and I take their advice. So, many times, the parent's role evolves from changing diapers and disciplining to being a consult and friend.

And as far as making a meal and someone refusing to eat it or yelling they hate it....I would definitely go over the edge on that one! How rude!? And they don't even care! Ugh!

So I thought this info might fit in best here. I just found out that the homebuilder who built our home is going bankrupt and our home warranty is now pretty much void. DH and I had been generally ignoring the warranty anyway, doing any fixes ourselves so we could control the quality, but a lot of the people in our neighborhood will be in big trouble, since they won't have the budget to fix their house if the roof springs a leak.

I feel bad for them, but glad for me!

Great list, Happy. Your opening statement in your first post on this thread is fresh in my mind right now. I decided around 3:00 this afternoon to take tomorrow off work and ski all day. I am looking forward to skiing 2 feet of powder that has fallen at Taos Ski Valley since last Sunday.
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