When sex started to decline in our relationship, I was in a panic. All the things it could mean worried me. I've since realized that for us, this is part of aging... sex may be less frequent, but our intimacy and tenderness has increased. We are better lovers now than ever before- and I mean that in an emotional sense than a technical one. Blood pressure meds, heart surgery, etc. do take some of the starch out of things, but where there is a will there is a way. The toughest obstacle is sometimes getting him over his feeling of failure when things don't work as well as they did. Would I like sex more often? Sure. Sometimes anyway. Meanwhile, going to sleep holding my sweetheart's hand is pretty darn nice and when things get steamy, it's a night to remember.