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Kristen,
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I know a lot of women, who once they get older, want more sex than their husbands do. Maybe it's because we older women are not longer so focused on young children and can focus on ourselves, while older men become less interested. That's why we should marry men 10 years younger!!

For me without sex there is no marriage. (Who else can I have it with!) However, sex is not the focus of our marriage. True intimacy comes from our communication, communion and togetherness. He's my best friend, companion and always on my side. I'd rather be with him than anyone else in the world. He's the first person I think about sharing things with. It's a 2nd marriage for both of us and we have been married 9 years now. We tell people we're still on our honeymoon which lasts until the kids come. We're both near 60 so no kids are coming now so we can stay on honeymoon forever. :-)

You wife may need to get her hormones checked and see if there is a problem. I have friends that have kids and they say they are totally out of wack...not only that she may be tired! I am a scorpio and 37yrs. and my sex drive is not through the roof either...also the longer you go w/o it the more okay you become with it...so you guys need to try and figure things out. I am on the birth control pill and about to get my tubes tied b/c the pill takes a lot of my desires away as well. Woman's bodies go through so much so don't give up on her. I was however married b/f and my ex constantly wanted sex and I have to say that it got on my nerves!

Many thanks, Helen!!

I absolutely belive a healthy sex life is important to a strong/secure marriage. Generally as a rule, my husband and I always have make up sex (the best of course) any time we fight. Not to mention it's great for burning calories. We have three kids but that rarely stops us. We have our ways !

When sex started to decline in our relationship, I was in a panic. All the things it could mean worried me. I've since realized that for us, this is part of aging... sex may be less frequent, but our intimacy and tenderness has increased. We are better lovers now than ever before- and I mean that in an emotional sense than a technical one. Blood pressure meds, heart surgery, etc. do take some of the starch out of things, but where there is a will there is a way. The toughest obstacle is sometimes getting him over his feeling of failure when things don't work as well as they did. Would I like sex more often? Sure. Sometimes anyway. Meanwhile, going to sleep holding my sweetheart's hand is pretty darn nice and when things get steamy, it's a night to remember.

Would I like sex more often? Sure. Sometimes anyway. Meanwhile, going to sleep holding my sweetheart's hand is pretty darn nice and when things get steamy, it's a night to remember.

that is sooo sweet! thanks for sharing!

Trish-what a beautiful statement!

Sometimes, holding hands or just being held by the person you love and feeling his warmth is a gift too many people take for granted.