BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Need advice regarding a stupid baby shower

Yehonala, I agree with Ingilbert's advice. And what BellaHarmony said about reading too much into it is probably a good thing to take into consideration.

When you said, "once school started back up I feel like I barely have time to breathe(especially this year-I have 23 annoying 6-7 year olds" and Ingilbert responded the above, I was glad to see that I am not the only feeling that kids ARE very annoying this year more than last year. Many kids in my high school classes are very annoying and rude, too.

Inglebert, you were funny to say that, too! It really is stressful and exhausting to have a bunch of unruly, rude, annoying kids to try to teach. No wonder you haven't had much time to breathe, as I come home from school exhausted, too.

Maybe, if we show them patience, strength, and tolerance then we can change some of their behaviors. Hopefully, right?

BTW, I also HATE to go to baby showers. I went because I was trying to show support to the mother-to-be, but they really are uncomfortable to most people, with the possible exceptions of the mother-to-be and her family, and possibly her best friends. They really aren't much fun, ar they?

Trish

Um, I think this was an analogy about people coming onto a forum in an inappropriate way, not a literal example! I present seminars on online marketing and I talk about online forums sometime and how important it is to use the appropriate etiquette. The rules are the same in the virtual world as the real world. Imagine a room containing a support group for CF people who are deep in discussion. One person is talking about something that frustrates her. Walking past in the corridor is a parent who disagreed with what she is saying. The parent walks right into the room, and without having previously built relationships or trust with the people in the room, just starts spouting their opinion. That would be rude and inappropriate and the response would not be positive.

Very occasionally I see posts from other forums that make my blood boil. But I would be very very careful and respectful about how I joined in to the conversation.

Important for us to remember the appropriate etiquette on forums and also - might I add - not read too much into someone having a bit of a vent amongst friends about their job!!! (You should hear what I say about my job some days - yet overall I love it. If I couldn't have the odd vent, I would go crazy.)

Great post, Feebee!

Nice, Feebee. Can we have this quote posted as a sticky? Because it's SO true.

How do I post it as a sticky?

I appreciated the post too Feebee. I was at a loss for how to explain any better why I reacted without continuing to act like a jerk. Thanks for putting it into words so politely and wisely!

One of the moderators would have to do that, and include it as part of the rules for the forum - or have it as a sticky at the top "a word of advice for parents". But it would be a GREAT sticky.

FeeBeeGeeBee: Your comments are fascinating. This is my first experience with an online forum, and I've learned so much.

It's impossible to have positive without negative, strength without weakness, so I'm amazed that someone tries to pretend that their kids are completely likable. I've heard parents make comments about how annoying their kids are at times, and they would still dodge bullets for their kids. It's called being real. I love my husband dearly, but does he do certain things that make me crazy? Of course, and I do things that make him crazy, too. Teachers are only human. Kids do pick up on things, but there aren't any perfect teachers that are going to have positive reactions to everything a child is or does.

Hear hear Happy!

I did that once, I have fortunately been invited to few baby/kid parties. I think about five only!
But for the last one I actually declined. The mum is pretty cool, she is a mother of five, trying to be superwoman and kinda succeeding except she got VERY sick recently, SHE is the one suffering from the juggling, not the kids, not work HER. Which sucks! ANYWAY she has GREAT adults only parties (the kids go upstairs, her teen son - who's a GREAT teenager and a fantastic son to her - babysits.)
But I was just too tired! My husband was about to go to Egypt (this was in October) and we had been shopping for him and his family and I felt a kid party after that would be too taxing! It was a Sunday too. So I called, explained but I bought him a present (something nice but not expensive!) I went to his party last year and it wasn't too bad but I have been to some that got PRETTY BORING!