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"True Mom Confessions Part Two"


12.10.07 12:31p
I feel like I'm going to havea panic attack every time I think about my ds going to highschool next year. He'll only be 13 ....interacting with 17 year olds :o(

12.10.07 12:30p
All I want for Christmas is some peace and quiet.
Oh, and a clean house to enjoy it in!

12.10.07 12:30p
I've considered the run to the store on the corner or around the block or something while the baby naps. I can't ever bring myself to do it because of the certainty that THAT will be the time there's a fire in the house or THAT will be the time that I'm killed in a car accident and no one will know the baby is in the house alone. I can be outside the house while they are inside or in their rooms alone because I'm still at the house and can see if something is going wrong like a fire and the chances of me being killed doing yardwork are a lot less than being killed in a car accident. But I just know the one and only time I bite the bullet and take the chance will be the chance I never get to take back.

12.10.07 12:21p
My husband just called, he is going out after work. I try to be the cool wife and not care, but I want to cry. I feel so left out, why can't I have more adult friends?

12.10.07 11:57a
When asked what I want for Christmas I honestly don't know what to say. I've forgotten how to want anything for me. I've been taking care of kids and husband for so long I honestly don't know what would be nice to have. I think I've forgotten what "fun" is.

12.11.07 10:21a
I dont take good care of myself. I take fabulous care of my family - but not myself. Sometimes I complain that I can't add myself to the list, and it is hard sometimes. But mostly I know I could do it and would feel so much better if I would just focus on me (and that I could still be a good enough mom and wife). Why is this so hard?

12.11.07 9:06a
My 3 year old is having a freak-out. She has been crying for over an hour, about pants. This is lame man, it's lame...

12.11.07 8:15a
For Christmas this year I just want everyone to go away for just one weekend so I can be alone. I don't want to talk to anyone, pick up the phone, cook, clean, do laundry or go to work. I just want to sleep, read, get takeout and watch movies by myself. This will most likely never happen.

If my son doesn't go to sleep, I AM GOING TO LOSE IT!! I need time to myself...why can't I get that???

12.10.07 9:57a
It is a good thing that there isn't a "safe haven" place where you can drop off unwanted toddlers like there is for unwanted infants/newborns... because with the day I am having right now, if I had that option, I would totally drop my 3 year old and my 1 year old off there and never look back...

12.10.07 8:04a
I feel badly for people who ask me "how's the baby?" Because I forget they are being polite and instead I actually answer them. In detail. Yesterday a well meaning friend asked and I explained to him in detail how I haven't slept in three days because the baby is sick and it's driving me crazy, etc. Poor guy, I hadn't seen him in about a month and it was the same story then. He must think I'm a [censored] mom. I'm not! They just always have sniffles in the winter {apparently}. From now on I'm going to just answer the "how's the baby?" question with "Great!"

12.10.07 6:15a
I do not like the person I become when I become pregnant or have a new baby. Pre-pregnancy I am always in shape. smelling good, getting my hair done ,high sex drive and fun to be with. During pregnancy and with new baby I become a lump of craziness, totally absorbed with motherhood I ignore hygieneand every thing else. Between breastfeeding and diaper changes I am completly horrible to be around. It takes me 3 years to get back to my fun sexy self. I'm so scared to have a child with my new man(who desparately wants a child) after we are married .I dont want to be a single mother again

12.10.07 5:52a
If it weren't for "My Friends Tigger and Pooh" and "Mickey's Clubhouse" I would never get a shower.

12.09.07 11:09p
I wish I hadn't had my daughter. She looks and acts just like her father. He's an ugly, selfish [censored] who ran out on us. Yes, we are better off without him, but I'm still stuck raising his DNA. Now I'm trapped with a dumb, ugly, whiny kid I can't stand, receiving no child support payments because genius can't keep a job for more than a month. Why did I let myself get talked into having this child? What was I thinking? Babies don't save a marriage on the rocks, they just tie you to the [censored] for the rest of your life. I should have known better.

12.09.07 6:17p
I had my grandson for 3 days. My son picked him up today. The baby is almost 2. We had a blast while he was here---visit to Santa, lunch out, baked cookies, etc.
I'm so exhausted, I don't know if I can wait til 8:00 to go to bed!!
I'm 47---how people my age have their OWN 2 year olds is beyond me!

12.09.07 6:17p
I cannot stand when people interrupt me when I am in the shower or on the toilet with questions, fighting, boo boos, etc. What the heck am I supposed to do for you at this moment?? And by the way, I bet you passed by Daddy on your way to bother me. Argghhh!!

I could actually hear the glass break in my heart when I read this:

Poor kid.

OMG. That one you quoted broke my heart too. Holy crow. That is so so scary reading so many all together like that. Wow.

Was it this bad for previous generations of mothers? It seems worse now...worse kids, more negative distractions, more isolation from family and community.

It also makes me wonder if our generation is more spoiled than our parents. Our parents' generations and older ones don't have such an "entitlement" attitude as ours, with our spas, coffee drinks, and me-time. We were one of the first generations to be raised with this "kids first" mentality. Before us, kids had to be more "seen but not heard" and there wasn't all this focus on telling them they're the most special thing in the universe. They probably never heard the word "self esteem" as recent as the 40's-50's. I'm including myself in this generalization, so don't mean to offend anyone. It just makes me wonder if more women around my age (20's-40's) may not be as well-prepared for the sacrifices of motherhood due to the way we were raised. I don't know. The "this is lame man" quote was especially scary to me too.

frieda- young parents are definately not interested in sacrifice. I'm sure some do, but I worked in the local schools for a while and it was extremely disturbing how scarred these kids are. That and in my neighborhood (as in most) kids just run around in mobs, no parents in sight. The parents are inside watching TV and surfing the net to pay attention.

I read these stories and I am yet again assured of my decision...all hail the vasectomy!!!

QUOTE: "When I hear women say they don't want children, I am simultaneously disgusted with their selfishness and relieved that there will be more resources for my kids."

Just read that from true mom confessions. How can it possibly be selfish to decide not to have children? And there will NOT be more resources for her kids, whether I have children or not.

It saddens me to hear women quoting the "sheep theory" - We're NOT all the same - is there anything wrong with that?...just get on and enjoy your life!
Makes you wonder how she'll feel if her own daughter chooses not to have children?

Why are these women so obsessed with everyone's life choices? Live your life the way you seem fit and leave people who don't choose the same path alone! As long as we're not hurting anyone, why should we have to explain ourselves?

Sorry.....bit of a rant there.

So true! I know a hardcore father that has an 8-year-old son that is very into the theatre. We are thinking he's going to be gay. And they admit that is probably the case. Unless the boy adopts, he might not have kids. I wonder how his Dad will deal with that? I get the feeling he won't be happy about it, because I've picked up a vibe that he's a little snide about DH and I not reproducing - we are taking the easy way out, or something. Well, maybe we are, but whoever said life has to be painful? Sorry, I always ramble...

I think they just want us to feel their misery, happy!

How dare we make life choices that are fully thought out?? Why can't we just follow the life script like the rest of the sheeple and be burdened?

Sorry...I have brain cells that I prefer to use and make my life fulfilling for me!