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Hi everyone, I just read this amazing article about fear of childbirth and pregnancy. It is great, like reading about every thought I have ever had.

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Thanks for the article. I have this of course, and have a fear of pain in general. I have a hard time even getting a Pap test and my Gyn always comments on my extreme "fear of pain". He makes me feel like I am an oddity.
This is one of the reasons why I never wanted to be pregnant.

Billiecat, I am with you. I dread going to the gyn, I usually take a valium first. I am absolutely repulsed at the thought of pregnancy. I have a hard time being near a pregnant woman without feeling sick. At least I know I am not alone.

HI, thanks for the article. I fit right in to that category. Just HEARING words like dialate make me feel totally grossed out.

I have finally figured out why I prefer to hang out with men- If i spend any time with women who have children, the conversation ALWAYS ends up being about childbirth. I can't deal with it. It literally makes me feel sick. I just sit there squeezing my legs together, thinking about something else.

Ahhhhh!! Halloween came early this year!

Hi lovin:

Thanks for sharing your fear of the Gyn. The pain is unbearable for me - they use the baby speculum on me. He wants me to take a valium before I come, but I am usually the one driving so I can't.
It is also the fear of being in that vulnerable position, naked, in stirrups! I cannot bear to sit like that with him doing the exam. I tense up. I hate that indignity.
This is bad enough for me - pregnancy and childbirth would be a horrific nightmare that I would not be able to do.
I am glad they found a word for this fear so I don't feel so alone. Plus, this forum makes me feel more normal!

Billicat, We are the normal ones, have you ever watched a video of childbirth? There is not enough money in the world for me to ever do that to myself.

On a Roll, I have one close friend who is a woman and she also has no kids. I prefer to hang out with the guys too.I feel sick with any mention of childbirth, pregnancy, breastfeeding...oh god I am making myself ill as I write. Brilliant

Lastingone, Halloween indeed, could there be anything scarier then an alien creature incubating inside of you.

If you were to describe in graphic detail the changes that the process of pregnancy and childbirth does to a woman, restate the language so that it was restated in physiologically accurate terms, then tell someone the pregnancy and childbirth story with this new language, I think many people would say "Why would people willingly put themselves through that self-induced torture?"

Lovinglife, thanks for mentioning the breastfeeding in there. I have the same feelings as all of you have expressed about fears of pain, pregnancy, childbirth. I figured when I was in that position I would deal with it, as legions of women have (screaming, loudly complaining, whatever).

But breastfeeding is one thing I've really dreaded. For me it sounds like torture, because I'm really sensitive in that region. I take after my mom in that way, and she never was able to pull it off. I know there's tons of people out there who are saying, "I formula fed and my 3-year old is fine!" I read those comments all the time. But coincidently I've had a serious immune system-related disease (now in remission), and my brother has chronic, serious allergies. Hmmmm. Who knows if it's from not being breastfed, but it's a possiblity.

So that would leave me with either tremendous guilt over the issue if I couldn't handle it, possibly a child with a lowered immune system, or, months of agony if I do figure it out and am able to handle it somehow. Is that reason enough to not want to bear children? Possibly not, but it's on my list.

Hi Duane:

What you said reminds me of that article posted on here:

"Women ecstatic about uterine parasite"

I think of that all of the time!