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yes... it is a little paradigm shift. It will probably be a struggle at first, for me to remember, so it will be helpful to me to get reminders. But it is a good beginning.
I was thinking about it a short while ago, when i was walking home, because i noticed i was holding my head down. Holly, I have also brought many changes in life.
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That is not a little shift.
Over time it can change you totally. If i can get it to stick. "Nothing is more fleeting than enlightenment."
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Probably the best way to get it to stick is to put it into action right away.
What might i do that would be examples of practicing this new belief?
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Holly, I have also brought many changes in life.
Like what, for example?
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no i feel the same way all the time, growing up i was called names by my mother n her side of the family about my weight, then my childrens father during or 30yr relationship would so many times tell me "I don't know why i'm with you i know better looking women than you " so people have took away any self esteem i ever had. These people called you like this because they had power over you. Do not allow others to label you.
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How about some new names for her... like, "Beautiful," and "kind."
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Yes. I will call her a beautiful heart in a beautiful body.
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Skyhaven, some of my favorite stories are sort of "ugly duckling" stories. One is the opera Carmen, another is the movie Babycakes which has Ricky Lake in it. Another is the Australian movie Strictly Ballroom... one of my favorite movies of all time. Please rent them or get them at your library and watch them over and over if you like them... you will see! You will see that beauty and sex appeal is more about attitude and caring for yourself.
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i had to add my two cents...one of the best books i have ever read is emotional intelligence by Daniel Goleman. It helps you break past the barriers that we have allowed other people have set on us.
Unfortuantley as a child we tend to believe the things that adults tell us which affect our self esteem. Alot of times we then carry these feelings of worthlessness into adulthood even attracting partners that arnt good for us because of our low self worth.
But we have a choice to either allow the negative [censored] to affect the rest of our lives, or choose to realize that we are what we allow ourselves to be. Its a very difficult path to change especially when you've had low self-esteem all your life, but you can't depend on others to provide it for you. You really have to dig deep at the root cause and make positive changes.
To change the way you feel...you have to change the way you think...all of us our worth something but each individual has to decide that for themselves.
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It sounds like a very interesting book. Does it give suggestions on how to create this change?
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