Verbal abusers often say, "it was just a joke." "It was just a joke," should always be discredited, for our own protection.
MettaMaid,
To be humorous you have to actually care about the feelings of the recipient and you are not convincing in this.
This kind of conflict has happened often as a result of your comments, and in exchanges with different people. This kind of comment is why you have been losing credibility with others. If you do not respect others, they will sooner or later lose respect for your comments. Arrogance is disrespect for others, as is being doggedly persistent when someone differs in opinion, which you do frequently. In short... you display you are desperate to be right and superior and to have everyone prefer your opinion to their own.
I say this bluntly not with any desire to hurt you, but to give you the opportunity to learn from this. I wish i could say it in a way that would sting less and you would still "get it," but i tried, and you have ignored all hints over the weeks and i have not been the only person hinting. If you did not disreguard the importance of those comments from myself and others, this post would be unnecessary.
You have often claimed that it is easy to misinterpret what is typed. But this is an excuse. Believing that, you can continue to say anything off the top of your head without any concern for the feelings of others, or responsibility for what you say... but this is wrong! This is a serious lack of socialization ability. You need to face that you are making excuses for saying remarks that are insulting, or you will not be able to avoid them in the future and be successful socially. This is true, whether on the board or off.
This is something you need to decide for yourself... that you want to change this. At one point, you asked for my help. I didn't know what to say because i am aware i cannot help, nor can anyone, until you want to be nicer to others instead of making excuses such as,
MettaMaid: "Oh for goodness sake! It was just a joke! I post here too you know! I thought maybe putting a smile-wink would have told you that! Don't be so serious!"
Nowhere in your comment did you show the least concern that you may have hurt Manjari's feelings.
Just a week ago, you chose not to learn from it also when you insulted me. Because you chose not to learn, it has happened again because you still have the same behavior and attitude and have made no effort to correct it. And it will happen again unless you learn now. It is time you accept it is not that others are repeatedly mistaking the meaning of what you say, it is that you are repeatedly behaving disrespectfully.
You have a choice. You can start learning, or more people will choose to ignore you, not by any design or conspiracy, but just because it is natural for anyone to get fed up from continued disrespect.
So i would advise you to quit making excuses for your behavior, and start learning how to respect others.
I would suggest you to begin with an apology to Manjari.
If you do that, i will offer you a clean slate and read and respond to your posts so long as you make an effort to respect others. If you do not apologize, i will ignore your posts.
