Warning: Long post.
I call the first "Male Strategic Incompetence" (MSI for short).
That's hilarious, and it sounds just like my husband. I keep telling him he would be the perfect subject for a clinical study, because it's incomprehensible how he can be capable of writing these complicated computer programs but, yet, he is completely unable to make the bed by himself or fold the sheets on his own. To be fair, though, he does do a lot of stuff around the house, starting with his own laundry. He is also in charge of kitchen clean-up. I cook but I don't have to worry about putting one single dirty dish in the dishwasher. That is his job, and it works out pretty well for us. He's been unemployed a couple of times during our marriage and I never had to lift a finger during those times. It has always been understood that whoever stays home takes care of all house chores.
As far as when I reached my definitive decision....I'm not sure it was an 'aha' moment. It was just a gradual realization that we didn't have any desire to have kids, we were completely happy the way we were and we would have to give up all our other interest and passions, and we just don't want to do that. Of course, there were many circumstances that solidified our decision, like my taking my 1-year old nephew to Mexico by myself, as I've commented before, or simply watching the lives of other couples with kids around us. We never, ever, felt like: "Wow, I want to do that. That must be fun"!. On the contrary. We were always like: "Phew! Are we glad we are not on that boat!" I mean, I always sort of knew that I might never want kids. I remember going on first or second dates, and I would always bring two subjects up: a) I might never want to have kids, and b) I am not Catholic (something highly unusual in Mexico at the time). Maybe that was too forward for a 1st. date, but I always though it was important to lay it on the table from the very beginning. I am just so glad I found a man that feels and thinks just like me in that sense.
As far as abortion goes, I have always been pro-choice, because I don't believe anyone has the right to make that decision except for the woman involved, but I am not so sure I would have an abortion if it were my case. I think that, in spite of it all, I would give it a chance because, thruth be told, we are in a good position to raise a child and, eventhough we don't want to be parents, I don't think we would do such a terrible job, but that's just me. Fortunately, I have never had a scare. Birth control has always worked for me and, hopefully, my husband will have a vasectomy within the next few months and I will not have to worry about that ever again!
