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AF,

I started taking lexapro yesterday for my depression, i like being alone, but i don't like being lonely, my lonely causes depression.there are so many lonely people in this world, and thats sad, i hope you all have someone or something happen i your lives today to make you smile ;o)

Thanks CD. What a lovely thought!

I am struggling, but am feeling better than the other day.

AF

All of us are lonely.

That sounds good.

well, i'm very glad you guys are here. You definitely help me when i feel lonely. I find it helps me also to get busy with a big project. Right now i'm stripping the wallpaper in a bedroom and repainting.

I'm also going to call a couple of people tonight. It's funny... i think a lot of times when we feel lonly we're also reluctant to do things like call old friends or new aquantances, or to go out or invite people over. Like right now, i kinda don't want to call these people because i let time pass and with one of them we had a little misunderstanding. But i know it's a good idea for me to do it.

What else can we do?

I'm trying to find ways to believe, REALLY believe, in my own self worth.

Three years + of hearing what a dead loss I am has really gotten me to believing that I really am a 'good for nothing'. Yet, deep down, I know this isn't true. So why do I feel so afraid of making new friends? Why am I afraid that they won't like me? It is so stupid and impractical!

I think we just need to have someone tell us that we ARE 'OK' and show us how our thinking has been distorted by negative things said to us, over and over again, that really reflect the insecurities of those people, and not of us.

I have come to realize now that my ex must have been a very insecure man, and putting me down made him feel big and strong - and important!

If only I could see this reality all the time, and not keep falling back into insecurity and self doubt.

As Hollyelise has said: What else can we do?

AF.

Well, AF... you are good for me. You help me learn and you are kind and encouraging... you are a good person!

I am not consistent either, but maybe we can choose to believe in ourselves one challenge at a time. Every win will matter and we'll get better with practice, right?

At least all of us are unique!
There is no one else like us!
Are we morons that we can not achieve what others can?
No. we can!

There have been many notable late bloomers in life! Abraham Lincoln, for one, J.K. Rowling for another, ...and did you know Einstein was considered retarded until after his theory of relativity became known? Yeah, that's right. ...by his father and his teachers because he kept failing his classes.

I think we each have limitless potential still. Sometimes nothing shows on the outside for a long while, and may not even be evident to ourselves. Lance Armstrong did not win the Tour de France ONCE until AFTER he had brain and testicular cancer! How about that? It's almost like the extra challenge gave him the extra resolve he needed. I mean... !!!!!!!!!!!! ....what do you think he did... maybe he was lying in bed one day, here he had cancer, not only that, but isn't that matasticized cancer when you have it in more than one place?... do you think he asked himself, "What am i going to do... am i going to lay here til i die or am i going to get up and win the Tour de France 7 times in a row?" I mean, it just BOGGLES the mind! It really makes me wonder if i have anything to complain about, or any real excuse to say i can't do anything. Doesn't it make you feel that way a little too?

What would you like to achieve, Manjari? ...and AF and cd and anyone else out there?

i'm going to think about this some more. Maybe i've been thinking too small. Sometimes it's good to say 'the sky's the limit' and dream bigger, because it's more inspiring and because it gets us to stop fussing over the trivial stuff! I mean, why not? If we try and fall flat on our faces, well, at least we tried, right? So what about that hospital, cd? What's the first step?

I know one think i want to do is write books, and i know some of the rest of you do, too. What would it take for us to really believe we can do it?