BellaOnline Forums Relationships Single Life Do you believe in romantic love like the movies?

Here's my question, have you every watched a movie and the couple falls in love? Yes, there is a little drama and excitement but in the end they are really in love? Do you believe this only happens in movies or does this happen in real life also? Does "romantic movie love" exist?

In short - LIfe definitely does not imitate Art.

I would like to say yes but I'm I haven't experienced it yet.

If people want to have that kind of romantic love they see in movies, I think the best think they can do is to work on it to make it work and lasting.

I guess, when the relationship is working and it lasts for a long time then that's romantic.

Well, I came up with this question this weekend. I had a somewhat in depth conversation about life's philosophies and love, religion and whatnot. When the topic of real love came up at the conversation, the man across from me said that he wanted to be able to live normally without thinking about love or being in love (he has had some ruff relationships). I told him that I wanted to find the romantic movie love. I want to fall in love and feel good about the person I'm with, just like the movies. I know relationships are hard work sometimes and there is no such thing as the "perfect man" but maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic. It's not hard for me to find relationships, it's just hard to find a meaningful one. He then told me that, that doesn't exist. That love is nothing but a chemical in your brain. So, I thought that that was really sad. I wanted to see who else believes in the "romantic movie love" or if it really even exists.

The hardest part of having the conversation with this man is that if circumstances were different, I could marry him, we are so compatible in every way.

Love happens, nice romantic, sweet movie love. To keep it going... work. Give and take. And it is worth it when the love is real. Movies are two hours with commercials. Real life is YEARS... hopefully <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I love this question. I've gotten into several discussions with guys about this lately. Romantic love most definitly exists, but "true-love" is a whole other level. "True Love" is what the movies portray every romantic love relationship to be and that is misleading. You can be happy with someone and love them but that doesn't mean that they are your soul-mate.

All love takes work but when you're with your one right person--it doesn't feel so much like work, it's more a matter of equally not being able to stand seeing the other unhappy.

Movies make people believe that everyone has a true-love, and I don't think that's accurate. Some of us do, but some of us will spend our lives with someone we simply enjoy and care about (that's not all that bad either).

I believe it exists. But I also believe that not everyone has a "soul-mate". Some people prefer to stay single.

My relationship with my husband feels like love in the movies <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Yes sometimes we go through rough patches, but all in all we are very much in love and quite romantic together.

I really like what Alexa said "All love takes work but when you're with your one right person--it doesn't feel so much like work, it's more a matter of equally not being able to stand seeing the other unhappy."

That's exactly it! In past relationships it felt like work. But with my husband we share everything. We work together.

I think it was Dr.Phil who said "Marriage isn't 50/50 it's 100/100."

I wish life imitated the movies sometimes but as it appears up until now we aren't that lucky.haha. My fav. romantic movie (which I wouldn't mind imitating) is Serendipity.

It's very easy to get swept away by media images of love, be it in the movies or magazines or romantic bodice-ripping novels. Love can look like that at times, but real love � intimacy, really � is very based in real life. Meaning, sometimes it feels great, sometimes it sucks and other times it's OK.

Work? It will always be work, but you have to define what work is. To me it's being respectful, kind, generous, loving, understanding, open-minded, honest, forgiving, nurturing, empathetic and genuine. And none of that is "easy" � but, so what? Isn't he or she WORTH IT?

Absolutely!