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I have just experienced a new level of craziness of the celebration of having a baby. I am annoyed and will probably sound harsh--i should calm down after I vent.

I have a friend (a guy) with whom my husband and I were always on the same page. The kind of friend that we envisioned being older with and still living life our way. About two months ago i found out his wife was pregant--which was annoying because we thought he did not want kids. But fine. We are in our 30's everyone else is doing it.

Today, we were forwarded a link to their baby update site....people do this??? And I thought the wedding planning sites were bad enough...but this??? you can post comments on what to name the baby! see a scan of the ultrasound! And click on where the parents have registered for easy access to buying a gift!

I remember going nuts when I saw this kind of stuff for weddings. This is my first for a baby. I am sure others have seen this. I have to say, I found it very irritating.

I told my husband I am close to creating a site for the cats. It is too bad I don't have more free time!!

Okay, i feel better just getting that out.

That is annoying. I don't need to know every little detail of people's pregnancies. That kind of site should be reserved for out-of-town family or something.

Those wedding sites are annoying, too. If you had a site for your cats, I'd rather see that than a baby website. Cats at least are interesting (I don't find pregnancy interesting at all.)

One reason I don't want to get pregnant is because of all the gross physical stuff. No offense, but I don't want a doctor looking at my privates for 9 months. I don't care if it sounds immature, either ... and I don't want to hear about someone else's doctor's appointments, either!

I work with a few moms who will tell me about how they got sick and had diarrhea and then got their period ... I don't want to hear about this stuff! They say, "after you have kids, you'll understand that nothing bothers you anymore." Just because they feel more comfortable discussing bodily functions doesn't mean I have to be! I guess you would get desensitized by things like having your entire family in the delivery room.

I'm with you, Ingilbert!! I hate hearing about bodily functions (except as they pertain to my bunnies, ironically). But also the whole lack of modesty that seems to accompany parenthood. Ick.

I guess the web thing is just part of the technology boom. I love the web - at least you can ignore the baby site if you want to! That's what I'd do

My friends in UK had their first baby six mos. ago. They created one of those sites... complete with every ultrasound photo (including the 6-wk "egg sac" -- they were doing fertility stuff and monitored closely). The BEST one was after the baby was born, her husband posted all these hospital photos on the web, including one of her nursing for the first time, very immodest -- she was MORTIFIED when she finally saw it. I felt bad for her, because he'd sent the web address to their entire family/friends and I knew she wouldn't have wanted that picture in there. But then part of me was thinking maybe she's okay with it b/c it's her baby and the nursing/bonding thing.. but nope, my first reaction was correct - she had no idea he'd posted it. OMG!!!

OMG - I would be livid! Egg sac ... eeewwww!

I understand, perhaps, putting up some pictures of your baby on a website, but ultrasound? Is it that important to other people?

There is a girl I barely know - I know her sister and I dated her cousin.

She got pregnant, and after the baby was born her sister sent a link to baby pictures. EVERYONE got this link to a site that "Mom" had created. There were "before delivery" pictures with her legs spread (luckily you could see anything) and pictures of her pushing and then pictures of her breastfeeding - COMPLETELY topless.

I barely know this girl, and the link was sent to dozens of people.

ICK!

What is wrong with these people? It's like they completely check their brains at the delivery room door. Yes, it's a big event, and yes, your friends/family are eager to hear/see details and the new baby, but does that have to mean we want to see such intimate pictures?

Even with my closest friends, sisters, etc.....I do NOT want to see this stuff!!!! What happened to modesty, people?!

When my SIL (my husband's brother's wife) went into labor, my MIL wanted to be in the delivery room!! I could not believe it! If I ever was in that situation (and I'll do everything I humanly can to avoid it), the only people who would be in that room is the needed medical staff and my husband. And my husband would be no where near my crotch area. He does not need to see that horrific mess. I hear too many stories of husbands who have no attraction to their wives after they see a birth...and no wonder! There is NOTHING attractive about that!