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This is a very emotional issue for me because I do not feel that my students are doomed or that their lives are misery and suffering due to their disabilities. Many of htem are very happy, happier then most so called "normal" people I know. However, I agree that if you know that your child is going ot be sick or disabled you should likely not have one. However, I do worry that this thinking may cause some peopel to take up the attitude towards the severely disabled of "you should never have been born." Also many of my students are not the result of genetic issues but of other problems that would not be any more likely to occur in other pregnancies. However, I agree that many of my parents should not have had children due to their genetic issues. What truly bothers me though is the disgust I have seen some parents project towards my students like the women I know who asked me if I did not think they should be "euthanized." I just cant understand how a parent, or anyone else, can have that attitude. That could have been her deaughter. My feeling is if you cant deal with the risk of a disabled child dont have a child.

I am glad that I'm not the only one to think this ... I'm glad other people on this board feel the same way! I had mentioned something to my mom about how I thought it was irresponsible of them, and she just got quiet and was like, "I guess, I just feel bad for the kid." Well, I feel bad for the kid, too. Even one of my best friends didn't think there was anything wrong with having another kid who could possibly have the same problems.

Oh well.