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Today's Veteran's Day and I was thinking about how many soldiers gave their own lives so that their children could grow up in a better world and it made me think of something I'd like to teach my babies:
Appreciation

I believe that if you can teach children to appreciate what has been done for them that a lot of other valuable character traits will follow. I'm not claiming to know the best way to go about the training process, but I plan to give it a try.

Hmmm,
1. You were born with a unique purpose and only you can fulfill it.
(This is so she embraces her uniqueness and her gifts with confidence.)
2. You are wonderful, beautiful, powerful and worthy of everything that is good. (This is to counter all of the external and internal negativity life brings.)
3. This too shall pass. (This is for the bad times when it seems like the pain wont go away.)

Something wonderful to think about now while my daughter is one. Thanks for posing the question.

Warm Regards

I'd like mine to know they're perfect just the way they are and that they can manifest their intentions by working peacefully with the people around them. No matter what goes on in life, everything is, as it should be.

I don't expect to agree with all of their adult decisions, I only hope they are consciously made and in line with logic and reason.

1. No matter what, always tell the truth.
2. Treat other people the way you would want to be treated.
3. A high self-esteem if far better than a lot of money because it will take you much further in life and no one can take that away from you.
4. Education is what you need in your tool box to succeed in life.
5. Love is what it's all about.

That sounds pretty interesting....indeed its a great advice.

Thank you

I agree with Lynn! Good words of advice.

My words of advice:

Even if they 'say' they hate you as teenagers - always let them know you love them. Even when my kids don't want to talk to me - i have ALWAYS made sure when they leave the house for school - that i say - i love you and have a good day. They don't always answer - but they know. When they are out and have to call home - we always end with - i love you.

Never blame them for your own mistakes or errors in judgement. Learn to say - 'i made a mistake - im not perfect' this in turn will teach them that their parents aren't perfect - and its okay to make mistakes - as long as we try hard not to make the same ones twice (hard when you're a teenager)

Talk and listen - listen to even what they don't say - that's important. My parents raise me and my 5 siblings with the adage - do as i say - not as i do.....but that doesn't always work in this day and age. Make the rules and follow through - don't waver - even if they get mad. They need rules - they thing their teacher is tough- wait til they have a boss - in the real world! When you mess up with a boss - he's not going to ask how you feel about it.

Be honest - about your mistakes - and don't assume they know what you feel or how you feel.And listen to them! Don't smother - allow them to be independent and make mistakes - and let them learn to clean up the mistakes -without your help - it will ground them.