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Babies freak me out so much. I have never liked them (never like dolls when I was a child either). They are too needy and look funny. So even if I was rich I wouldnt have them.

I like children but I love giving them back to their parents.

No. I would not.

Although I'm not wealthy, I don't have children because I don't want to have children.

A couple we're friends with were over with their baby last night, and although I very much enjoyed interacting with the baby, I wouldn't enjoy it full-time.

If you were wealthy, though, you could afford to care for the baby part-time! You could hire a nanny to work part-time, as well. It's interesting that some of you remain in a middle-class mentality even when you're given a hypothetical, upper-class scenario.

Why would anyone go into parenthood with the attitude of hiring nannies, child care, etc. to be a "part time" parent. Because they want the "status" that having kids brings without the work? While I don't blame parents for putting their kids in child care out of necessity (I don't think it harms the kids unless the parents abdicate all parenting to the child care provider), I do find the idea that you'd pay someone else to raise your kid solely for your own convenience to be a little absurd.

Frog, it doesn't sound to me like you are a fence-sitter. It sounds as if you are goading CFs into saying they really do want kids, they just don't want to sacrifice their fancy lifestyles, or that they are outright child-haters.

Personally, finances are not the reason we don't have kids. We just don't want to be parents to anything without fur. Period. Enjoy the nieces, nephews, neighbors. But we like it that they go home with someone else.

And most of us know and respect the struggles some have made with infertility and acceptance. I hope Holles and others won't go off the board just because of one ridiculous thread.

"I'm not sure why the childfree on these boards are being so narrow-minded, since everyone can fully understand themselves only from an unbiased standpoint with an objective viewpoint of life in general. After all, only those who don't critize others can really claim to be perfectly happy with the decisions they've made throughout their entire life."

What is this gobbledygook? I kind of want to debate you on the whole "objective viewpoint of life in general thing" but I've got other things to do tonight.

I'm with Tbunny on this one...I suspect Frog is just trying to get a reaction out of people...but even so, I'll play along...

If I had a billion dollars, I certainly wouldn't have kids--the reasons why I don't want kids have nothing to do with money so having more of it wouldn't change my mind.

I really think I understand both sides of this issue no one should go into parenthood wanting to be a "part time" parent, its a full time job. Still there is no denying that parenthood is easier to accomplish if you have money. I really dont think any sane parent of a baby or toddler wouldnt welcome a nanny to watch the kids for a few hours, and that does not mean thney are not a full time parent or dont want kids. Im a full time wife but I dont want to spend every second of every day with my husband and he can take care of himself. Im not sure if I had a million dollars if i would have a kid, but it would certainly be more likely becuase I could afford to support the child and me in all eventialities and my fur kids as well. Whether or not we want to admit, money, makes things, lots of things, easier. I dont think anyone is narrowminded and I do agree that if you really dont like kids and are sure you dont want them then all the money in the world isnt, and shouldnt, make you into a parent, but I think for fence sitters it certainly makes the idea more attractive/ I know that right now if I desperately wanted kids I could afford them, some of my friends with less money have them, but right now my desire for them is not strong enough for me to make the sacrifices necessary. If there were less sacrifices the whole idea of parenthood would be lots more appealing. That is becaues my primary problems with parenthood are around the money and the fact that I would have to combine work and childcare, not about the idea of caring for a baby. Obviously people will feel differently if money is not their primary motivator for not having a child/.

It doesn't matter how many caregivers you hire for your child, the responsibility for the child will ultimately remain the parents'. One of the MAIN reasons I don't want children is that I don't want that much responsibility. I'm responsible for ONE human being, myself, and that's enough for me!

Cindy

I�m not sure about meanings but think childfree is more courteous than childless for a forum. Beside I think childless need forum (swap idea and experience) more than childfree guys.
I have an aunt 56 years old childless, every time meet her, she advise me to have another child (I have a daughter). She loves the children some times more than their parents, I felt couldn�t understand her quite well.

I guess money and support will help us to bring more child in our life but my reason for haven�t had another child wasn�t about lack of money and nanny but if it was prizes to get such big money for bring another child then I�ll consider! lol

I think took right decision for less responsibility, especial for nowadays whereas we are in threat of war.

Several of you misunderstood me. I don't care if you become parents or not and I'm certainly not an advertiser in the "Become a Mommy Today!" business. And you're right, I'm not a fence sitter. I'm indifferent on the issue, which means that both options would suit my life perfectly. And where in my posts did I say that I'd neglect my children? It's not as though I'd hire the nanny for full-time employment. Also, some of you didn't read one of my posts: I regard the negative situations, not the positive ones, as the greatest Kodak moments that life has to offer. Now please, stop claiming that I'm condemning you into a narrow-minded mentality!

Absolutely NOT! There's much, much more to childraising that Kodak moments. As far as considering negative events as Kodak moments too, I'd doubt very much that your daughter coming home and telling you that she's pregnant or that your son is on drugs would be a very good Kodak moment.

My choice to be CHILDFREE is because I don't want kids, PERIOD. It wasn't a financial decision. I could afford a nanny now. It's the fact that I would ultimately be responsible for that child. No thank you. And as mentioned above, there are WAY too many people on this earth as it is.