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No, we are not the ones who bear children.. We are not the ones who give birth.. No, I MYSELF, am neither of these.. But I am one who has been born, has an appreciation for what a mother goes through, I myself have had a father whos neglect and persicution has taught me to love greater than just the outside and faults. I know the difficulties a mother goes through, because I myself was raised by a single mother. Im not naive, i am not ignorant to a woman's struggle. I have the utmost respect for my mother. Therefor, when my wife bears a child, I will too, carry that with me. When she gives birth, I too will share in the moment and the struggle, I'll feel through her the pain that is being put onto her body and the strain on her soul. Also, I will love my child more than words can express, not forgetting my wife, however <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> "that happened to my eldest brother, so encompased by his child he neglected his wife.. different story.." But you're wrong.. My virginity was saved for the woman I am with now. Because I am quite sure we're to be married. I had, all along, been afraid to g ive that to me, because my MOTHER had told me, once you give that away, its giving part of your SOUL to some one.. Thats big to me, of course I wouldnt throw it away. Its not just WOMEN or GIRLS that hold virginity close to them. Men and boys also hold these morals.. Some do, just as some girls do. Men may lust more, but women do as well, men endulge in these lusts, as do women. Do women not say "why should the boys have all the fun" ? And decide to have an affair? If you say no, this was my Aunt's reasoning behind leaving my uncle. Now, Im not trying to prove anything, just show you that men, all men, are not selfish pigs. Those who have been raised well, and non conformed to current standards of males or people for that matter.. have selfless motives and wish to find love and happiness in another that they can put their all into. Thanks for letting me get my feelings out <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I've needed a reason for a while.
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Suppose, for a moment, all human beings were born sans sight. Without our vision, to see a woman's physical appearance, what then would we consider a woman's beauty? The tone of a voice, her particular touch, her individual scent, would these then determine a society's judgement as to who would be considered beautiful? Or, would a woman's actions, as a human being, play a far greater role, in that consideration?
As to men, and the whys of their straying ways...I feel it has more to do with the male ego. A man, who begins to feel less attractive, physically, or feels he is some how less than other men, perhaps one who is aging, or one who has self-doubts, and low self esteem, one who greatly needs to feel important, may stray merely in order to boost a flagging ego. His doing so has nothing to do with the woman who is his life partner. It has to do with something lacking within himself. If this is the case, and he feels his woman is not giving him what he needs, to feel worthy, as a man, he looks elsewhere. But, he will never find self worth in someone else. He must find it within himself. You have presented a great way of experimenting. Congrats.
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Like with most things in life, I suppose, it depends on the individual. As Pam Garlick concluded, it's down to the moral fibre of the man. Expanding on that, beauty is never merely skin deep, it encompasses all aspects of your person which is why you may sometimes meet someone who physically breathtaking yet after spending time with them, that beauty diminishes because there is no character,depth to back it up. On the other hand, you may meet someone who has no such physical attributes but the sheer strength of his/her personality makes them more attractive the more you know. In a nutshell, if you are shallow skin-deep beauty is good enough for you. If you ned more than that, you will find the beauty within.
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Like with most things in life, I suppose, it depends on the individual. As Pam Garlick concluded, it's down to the moral fibre of the man. Expanding on that, beauty is never merely skin deep, it encompasses all aspects of your person which is why you may sometimes meet someone who physically breathtaking yet after spending time with them, that beauty diminishes because there is no character,depth to back it up. On the other hand, you may meet someone who has no such physical attributes but the sheer strength of his/her personality makes them more attractive the more you know. In a nutshell, if you are shallow skin-deep beauty is good enough for you. If you ned more than that, you will find the beauty within. This is for intelligent men. Most of them are driven by animal instincts. This is unfortunately true.
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Roni,
True wisdom has been written here. This is why my friends and lovers are always older than I...I admire your self assurance and I continue to work toward truly embracing such a liberating approach.
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There is an sexual instict in both humans and animals. If you watch a Peacock, he dances and displays his feathers to entice the hen. This is nature's way of survival of species. MEn and women both have this. Many women are equally attracted to handsome looking men.
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She was worried that if she did not look beautiful always, her husband would go to other women. cdmohatta I�m not sure beauty for women and using cosmetic is just for preserve their husband. I guess women in common (this sense is more powerful in them than men) love other attention, some times not just for men I think. So, what I'm saying is yes, it does happen. But it's not all because of a woman's looks. It's the man's moral fiber. pam I read this sentence several times. As cdohatta mentioned, �this is so powerful�. Several of these women have had younger lovers(yawn I say)and have not confessed to the husband(although husbands are notorious confessors). Are we out of the mainstream? Roni this�s another side of coin.
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As to men, and the whys of their straying ways...I feel it has more to do with the male ego. Adamc gets my respect. But sadly, not all men are like you. On the contrary, there are so few of you these days.
My view of men may be a little cruel. When it comes to love, sex, and relationships, I think men have a hard time controlling themselves. women and men are all human, with some differences I think, the women view about father brother and son aren�t as same as for Husband, why?
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