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hi i had been seeing someone for the last 6 weeks...he spent alot on clothes and perfume for me and its all at my flat (we never lived together) but have recently split and hes demanding them back...said he'll involve the police and a solicitor...is he able to do this...is he just threatening it or would they listen?

If he's that petty I might go ahead and give him his things back and possibly consider a restraining order unless you're considering reconciliation. The money he spent isn't worth the trouble he sounds like he may give you if he doesn't get the items back. As the saying goes... it's a thin line between love and hate. I wouldn't wait to find out if the police would listen.

I'm wondering how exactly he's going to prove how much of the perfume you used before you two split up! <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> MEN! <img src="/images/graemlins/wall.gif" alt="" />

I'm sure he will look very cute in all of the clothes he bought for you, too. LOL! <img src="/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Legally, anything that was given as a gift is yours. But he could make your life miserable trying to get the stuff back. (Or the police might laugh him out of the station and you can get a restrainment order keeping him away from you) It's a toos-up depending on how the authorities in your area are.

If it is jewelry or expensive items- give it back. Or like Bella TV said, it might be worth it to give it all back just so you don't have to deal with him - although I might be tempted to dump the perfume ON the clothes first! <img src="/images/graemlins/devil.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/queen.gif" alt="" />

I really should not give dating advice at 2:00 in the morning when I cannot sleep! <img src="/images/graemlins/tongue2.gif" alt="" /> I get too ornery.

They were expensive clothes mostly he brought them off his credit card he had for the shop he got them from but hes told me he wants them back to give to his next girlfriend...now i dont see why i should give them back to him for him to pass them on as they were brought for me...i just needed to know what he was able to do legally to get them back or if he was just trying to scare me into giving them back

hes saying he can prove the clothes ETC are his cos he has reciepts BUT they are at my flat and we never lived together so isnt that proof enough they were given?

They're gifts, plain and simple. You don't have to give them back. He probably doesn't have a legal leg to stand on unless he accuses you of stealing. If you're that worried about it, just give them back to get him out of your life.

Unless he is pshyco, I'd keep them! Or, if you are concerned, get legal advise, then make your decision.

Gift - something you GIVE to someone....

depending on how much trouble he is it may be better just to pack them all up and give them back, it'll help you get rid of him sooner, which can so be worth it.

meg

As far as him proving they're "his"--it's simple. Will the clothes fit him? Would he wear women's clothes? If not, then it seems it'd be pretty obvious that they were bought for someone else!

(lol, if I were a judge, I'd say "if they're yours, then you must have bought them to wear yourself. If you admit publicly here in this courtroom that you bought that women's clothing and perfume for your own use, then they're all yours. Otherwise I'm going to call them a gift and you don't get them back." I bet most guys would give the stuff up. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> )

This sounds very petty. pack everything and send him back with a letter. Better not to keep anything gifted by such person.