BellaOnline Forums Relationships Single Life DATING! I hate it!

Dating is the hardest thing to go through and sometimes I just want to say to heck with it and remain single, but then I long for the loving touch of another, I long for a companion to share my life with.
I went on a date this weekend and we had the best time! Laughed at all the same stuff, had SO much in common, talk of future dates and a little kissing action too. Afterwards we took a walk with my dog down by the lake...all is good right? So you would think right? He leaves the evening with a kiss and "I'll call you in the morning"...Well, the call never came and it's day 2 after the date. I don't flippen get it! I woke up so happy the day after, I was glowing inside and out only it lead to another disappointment. Now I know you are probably thinking "Well, maybe something came up right?" Well, This guy ( I would say gentleman, but a real gentleman would have been truthful) had gotten a hotel a block away from where I live so he didn't have to make the 45 minute drive back home that night. I called the hotel the morning after our date and he had checked out.
I don't get it, I just don't get it. Why all the spoken words of future dating? Why tell me how awesome I am? Why say all these things and not mean them? Can men really be that cold? Can men really just "say things" in hopes of getting a little action that night?
This tears me up and tears my heart and I don't understand it. I would NEVER play with someones heart strings like that.
I know there isn't a so called "Mr Right" out there, I live in reality, but dayum....how do you go on when you've gone through SO MANY episodes like this?

I'm sorry for your experience. To have such good and bad at the same time puts emotions through a ringer. Your story reminds me of the movie Swingers. There's this scene where the nice guy's player friends are telling him how long he should wait before calling a girl after he gets her number. Don't know if it actually has any bearing in your situation, but it made me think of it.

I have to say, a lot of otherwise great guys do a lot of really stupid things. Sometimes they don't think and other times they over-think. Either way, it seems someone always gets hurt, even if no one means for it to happen.

All that being said, it still sucks. Guys can get hung up on some of the weirdest things... <img src="/images/graemlins/wall.gif" alt="" />

I still cannot for the life of me understand what it is about us women that makes us believe that having a partner will bring us fulfilment, happiness and make us feel complete...
Why can't we get it through our heads that any man we end up with, will be the lucky one...Not us - ?
When it comes to emotional maturity, we leave most men standing - even as high-flying well-paid executives, emotionally, a lot of them don't get past the age of ten - !!
Yet put a bunch of flowers and a box of chocolates, plus the odd phone call infront of us - and we become simpering ninnies, who go weak at the knees!

Come on sister - get a grip!!
Stand tall, pin your shoulders back and sod them - !! Where's your sense of Womanly Pride - ?

Your Life, well-being and future happiness does not - and never will - depend on the presence of a partner in your life.
It depends on you reaching inwards and finding the perfect, self-assured, comfortable and confident woman you already are...

Enjoy your days - they're limitless, but their number is uncertain... Why waste them wishing for an ideal which is non-existent - ??

If you yearn for the loving touch - get a puppy!
They're fun, they get you out in the fresh air to exercise, you can meet all kinds of really friendly folk by having a dog - and THEIR love is unconditional....

read wild at heart and capataving. wild at heart explanes men and captavating explanes women. i think every human should read both.

Alexandra...I already have a puppy and well...puppy's just aren't the same as a mans touch. I do have a sense of pride and I do look inward ALL THE TIME. I appreciate your feedback...I REALLY DO, however I feel I am at a major turning point in my life and I know what I want...I want someone to share things with...sorry, but weekend get aways and day trips just aren't as fun when you are alone...Yes, I have friends, married friends, single friends with young kids so it's not like I am alone alone I just want a partner in life. I am glad you are at peace with yourself however I am being truthful with what I want....but I'm not desparate.
FreeBubbles....do you know the Authors of those books? I am ALWAYS looking for more understanding and I am a reader. Thank you for the suggestions!

yes Jonh and Stasi Elderdge... they have Guided Journals too but the wild at heart is wrote for men and the journal for it would not help you on the other hand the Captivating one would help you alot i think.

Alexandra you explained it really well.Nobody can bring you happiness but yourself and it comes from within.

I just posted something similar in the married no kids forum in response to an article that says true happiness comes from being "beloved" (that is why some people have kids- so somebody will adore them...How sad)

Just want to clarify something here....I AM happy, I am NOT desperate. What is so wrong about wanting to share my life with someone? You talk like I am this weak minded woman...I am not...I am single, I am independent, I am a Mom, I own my own home, I own my own car and I work Full time. I am not wanting someone for security purposes. I have all that I need...so what is so wrong with wanting a companion to share in MY happiness. Geesh!

There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to share your life with that someone special and I am sorry if I offended you I didint mean to.

Thank you freespirit....I too apologize for sounding so "matter of fact", but this is something that I always hear...that it's me being weak because I want that someone special...I guess I just get tired of hearing it sometimes.
Thank you for your input. That is why I came here.