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I think the swinger lifestyle is just more suitable for some than others. I personally have a hard time being myself when I'm dating a girl who acts very reserved and frigid about sex & any kind of sexual expression. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Something I learned about myself is that I may not take it as far as swinging, but I am definitely feel more comfortable when I'm in a relationship with a girl who is open-minded and more liberal minded when it comes to sex life.
I always still put a hugh emphasis on getting to know that person first, establishing that deep connection and trust, and also being responsible and clean...disease free. I have an issue wih swingers who show a disregard for that. The ones that don't disregard and do take all the precautions to be clean & responsible about it, I have no issue with.
For example, if I was in a relationship & we considered swinging with a certain person, I would personally have to require all 3 of us to go to the doctor together and take the STD/AIDs together in order to even consider it. I would have to hear it out of the doctor's mouth in person that everybody is clean & disease free.
Now how many swingers actually would or do show that much responsibilty? I would guess very few

Because they don't care about the other person. It's easy to be happy in a relationship and screwing other people when you don't care about anyone else but yourself. Why wouldn't you be happy? It's basically a mini-orgy every day. Who wouldn't like that? If you care about the other person in the relationship, how could you let some other guy run up in her? AND WATCH?!! How could you call some one yours wheneveryone has had her? I couldn't imagine what I'd do if I know a guy who had slept with my significant other and told me about it. These type of relations never last on a long term basis because the fact that you don't care about this person enough to watch them get BUCKED will soon lead to one of you having sex with some one without the other person knowing. Or having sex multiple times with some one when the other doesn't know about anything other than the first mutual encounter between the two couples. Now there is another relationship going on. Feelings being shared. You can't give 100% to your own relationship when you're sharing feelings with someone else. What's to keep you from doing that? You're already doing half the continent anyway. There is no respect in this type of relationship. Don't even think it's as cool as it looks. Know what you're getting yourself into.