I�ve read all of the posts about step-siblings in relationships and I actually joined bellaonline just to reply to the topic.
One year and six months ago, my step brother and I became romantically involved. I could go on with a whole elaborate story ( because I am a hopeless romantic) but I�ll give the short version. Our parents were married a little over a year before it happened. Before their marriage, we didn�t really know one another and we only talked a few times so we never grew up together. However there are so many other factors that society and my own family would view as inappropriate.
First, since our parent�s marriage, we have lived under the same roof. There has been tension since the beginning and he and I were always extremely flirty and close, which other siblings noticed and automatically labeled us as �weird.�
Second, we have a huge age gap. I�m not going to give exact numbers, but it is about a five year age difference. In my mind, there is nothing wrong with this mainly because I am extremely mature for my age and he is pretty immature and inexperienced for his age Another thing is, NO ONE knows except for my one friend and I�m not exactly sure if he�s told anyone. The whole thing is a great big secret and we both still live under our parents� roof. I�m basically living one gigantic lie which brings me to why we could never tell our parents.
Before anything happened with him and I, one of my siblings freaked out and said something to my crazy father who then freaked out at my mother and caused a whole drama. Yes at the time I would have loved to have something going on between us but at the time nothing was. From that point on, our parents became suspicious and kept a close watch on us. Also, because my father obviously didn�t agree with the situation, he basically disowned me for a while and did not want any part of me. Then my stepfather became like a father to me. Yes, I am now fine with both my father and my step father but we have a lot of issues.
For the past nine months, him and I have been trying to end it. Its next to impossible. I love him with all of my heart and I know that he loves me as much, maybe even more. I would risk it all to be with him but he has made it clear that he wouldn�t. I don�t blame him at all either. He�s close with his family and I would never want to be blamed for him not talking to them one day because of our relationship. The whole situation is just so hard and I definitely do not recommend it. However, he is moving out soon and I should be moving out in about a year, so I�m hoping that when I don�t have to see him everyday we will finally be able to get over each other. It just makes it hard because I don�t WANT to get over him�at all. But I�m so sick of seeing it hurt him so I�m working at giving him space and not seeing me. I dunno, if anyone has any suggestions on what to do for me to get over him or work through this.. let me know because I�m pretty much lost.
Well I personally think that once you move out, to try living your life for you & maybe start dating others.
I only say that because it sounds like this guy doesn't feel as strongly about you as you do about him & if it's because of the way his relatives are reacting to it, then maybe he does but is just holding back. If that's the case, then both of you moving out of the house is a good way to live your lives for yourselves because at that point it's really not anybody's business whether you 2 want to be together or not. If deep down he does feel the same way, then I would like you said give each other some space & some time. This would be a good way to figure out if they attraction is more than just physical. If it discover to be deeper than physical & deep down he does feel the same way, I would fight for the relationship too.
