For the most part feelings are not something that we have full control over, they just happen.
I would have to disagree partly, with this statement....
Feelings do happen, but the way in which we can have 'control' over them is to recognise that, legitimate as they may be, they are NOT who we are. They do not Define us, and are empty of any substance.... We have a right to experience them, but we should also permit them to arise, manifest express - and then, let them go.
Communicating and bringing up the topic can be hard for most people and the other person may become very defensive.
One thing would be to write a letter, sleep on it, then edit it. Try to keep the emotional stuff as low key as possible. Invite the other person to sit down with you to discuss the issue in a loving manner.
Absolutely brilliant, and spot-on....
Your advice carries Wisdom, Compassion and Insight. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Don't let the other person degrade you or laugh at you or dismiss your feelings. Speak up if they do and let them know you will be ready to continue this conversation when they can lovingly acknowledge to your valid feelings.
In reality, we have no control over what another person thinks says or does... We may agree or disagree with them, but we have no control directly, over what and why they do that....
The only safeguard we can bring into play, is to decide whether we will openly accept their opinion or View.... And in that, we therefore subsequently decide whether we will PERMIT their View/opinion to affect us.
What others manifest, is THEIR choice.
How we take it in, and our response, is OURS.
It is up to us whether we feel slighted, hurt, angry, upset, gladdened, happy or content, at their contribution....
How we take it on the chin, is our choice....
Change can only be engineered Within, not Without.
In reality our feelings, as much as we want them to be logical, loving and mature, most of the time they are not. It is how we act in spite of these feelings that determines if our behaviour is logical, loving and mature.
Bingo, once again.... Good comment!
If anyone has been through this situation, your experience and advice may be of benefit to these people.
Not I....But with what you have contributed, your comments can only be of great help....
Lovely post....
Thank you. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />