BellaOnline Forums Relationships Single Life What do you think of being single?

Why?

Things are easier that way. Why try and live the rest of my life trying to keep some woman happy?

it has pluses and minuses like everything else

My grandmother became a widow in 1974 and spent the next 25 years being single. No new husband, no boyfriends even. We always sort of figured, since she was so head-strong, and had been raised in the era when a woman sort of got handed from dad to husband, that she was really happy living entirely for herself, with no men telling her what to do.

That sounds perfect if you can do it I personally find in a loving relationship on both parties you can't get nothing better, it's only when the rot sets in things don't seem so good.

Personally, I love my solitude. It's been a long time since I've been in a relationship, and I like it better and better as time goes on. I do have to admit that a date here or there for fun would be nice...

The stage we're at in life can make all the difference. Sometimes a relationship is just what you need, other times being single can be just what the doctor ordered.

The more I think of it, the more I wonder if I'd REALLY want to be in a relationship anyway. My trust issues aside, my guess is that most people have a relationship that lasts because they end up settling in some way. I think you have to do that in a relationship; no one can be a person you like and respect 100% of the time, and they may change in ways you don't like. But in the end, it's too much of an upheaval to end the relationship, and it's not like you're going to find someone that makes you 100% happy anyway. (I found this out with my ex...he changed in some ways, and in some ways became a person I really didn't like. But I loved him and was committed to him, and knew I was never going to find the perfect guy, so I stayed with him)

And, well...I'm not sure I want to settle for settling. That seems to me like giving up, in a way, to say "it's not important to have what I really want as long as I have something close." I don't think I want to do that.

I love it.

I think a lot of single people (and this may be my age showing) get really twisted up about being single because they haven't figured out yet that being alone and being lonely are two completely different things.

In my opinion, the worst kind of lonely is when you are partnered up and sleeping in bed with someone - supposedly the love of each other's lives - who has his/her back to you, again. . . and you feel a million miles apart.

I'll take being alone any day.

I'm currently in a relationship,and we are both ecstatically happy...but the prospect of being possibly single in the future holds no dread for me....
I met a young girl in a public loo, the other day, crying her eyes out....(As the joke goes, If a woman's wearing a frown, chances are, 9 times out of 10, it's a man that's put it there....!) After checking with her to see if she was ok, she explained that she was having boyfriend troubles so I looked at her squarely, and told her:
" Get one thing straight: Your Happiness, Joy, Inner Peace, serenity and personal Well-being have never, do not, or ever will depend on a Man giving them to you. They are all entirely under your control."
She had obviously never thought of this, nor come upon the idea before. She visibly brightened up though....