BellaOnline Forums Relationships Single Life What do you think of being single?

I think you should give yourself more credit. When we decide to be in a relationship (or when we choose not to), we make that decision because we are answering a need that we feel in our heart. As long as you find a way to become a better person through your decisions, then there's no need for regret. Of course, that's just my opinion. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Being single made me do everything that I want to do. The only time I wish I have a partner was when I couldn't lift something that was so heavy. But that was it. Being single suits my carefree personality.

I've been single for so long I've forgotten what it's like to be in a REAL relationship...I'm at the age where I definatley want to build a life with someone. Truthfully, I do get lonely and well, sometimes friends just can't give you what you need. I wish I could say that being single I am totally fullfilled, but then I would be lying.

I'm 20 and have never been in a relationship as of yet. While I do desire the intimacy a committed relationship brings, as of right now, I wouldn't be able to deal with it. I get annoyed when I'm around somebody for long periods of time, plus, I'm still working on getting my life onto the track I want it to be on.

Also, the possibility of me being alone for the rest of my life doesn't create any fear in me. Yeah, I'm lonely now, and I'll be lonely then, but it's not enough to motivate me to deal with the stresses relationships bring.

I'd rather have dogs.

A really good relationship gives you the 'freedom' of having "single" privileges, but a commitment to someone else at one and the same time...

Kahil Gibran said it very well....(for 'Marriage', read wherever you're at...)

THEN Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, master?

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Ay, you shall be together even in thesilent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

Hi there everyone. I love the topic and I would like to comment. I would like to say that, I have been married twice, 31 years in total of my 56 years. I have been on my own the past 5 years this June. Have dated a lot and had a few relationships. I tell you, I still have what's called the Cinderella Syndrome...sometimes hoping/wishing for that prince to appear. I go through these times when I am wanting that one true love...and then I meet a few men and realize the prince ain't happening. I see reality and realize how lucky I am to still have my own life. It's really great most of the time. Oh yes, I do live totally on my own. Ahhhhhhh but life is grand.
Alicia

I have to agree with Alicia! I get lonely sometimes, and then I realize that the guy I want doesn't exist--I look at all the men that ACTUALLY exist in the world, and it makes me depressed and glad I don't have to deal with one of them. Life would be difficult indeed if I had to put up with all the [censored] that makes up men.

I guess I just worry that I'll end up lying in a hospital bed unable to care for myself, or that I'll inherit my mother's umpteen health problems and won't have anyone to help me out like she has me. I'll be fine on my ow--for the most part--as long as I can take care of myself. What about when I can't? In that case, it's not a matter of being able to emotionally pull myself up by my bootstraps. If I need somebody to give me morphine because I'm too weak to move, I'll be in trouble if nobody is around.

On the other hand, I also realize that even if I had a relationship, it wouldn't last long enough for somebody to be around then anyway. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"When you die, you have to relinquish all attachments and everything you hold close - so why wait until then?"

Buddhadamma The Words of the Buddha.

I hate it I prefer to be in a relationship.

I've been single for 23 years (oh yeah I'm 23 years old). I don't date, I don't go out, and I fully intend on staying single for the rest of my life.