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it's true - always be yourself and don't conform to any man.

Only you can define your own happiness. And your own self.

but yep, I did get lucky. of course, not the first time, first marriage was a bomb. by getting out of it, i opened up space that was eventually filled. if you've got negativity in your life, get rid of it! <img src="/images/graemlins/king.gif" alt="" />

I agree with Free Spirit on this one. Someday someone will see you for the *prize* that you are.

Don't change who you are -- just find a better audience. <img src="/images/graemlins/lovers.gif" alt="" />

I've never found pushovers or doormats attractive as friends or lovers. There's a difference between being a wimp and being kind. My husband is a kind, loving, and genuine person but he's also a strong man; if he wasn't I'd run right over him and have absolutely no respect for him. In return he also respects my confidence and strength.

So if your girlfriend only likes you when you treat her like sh*t, then she's screwed up. Be yourself, and keep looking for someone who has enough sense to appreciate that. There is someone out there. (Unless you immediately go all "stalker" on a woman when you first meet her...then you're screwed up.)

I think that rather than changing your behavior to make her happy, you should behave as yourself. Tell me, what satisfaction you will derive from a relationship that is being acted out? will you be able to marry her and live happily? One day, she will know about your true personality and blame you for cheating her.

are you getting any jou in this acting? why are doing this for? What is your objective? If you be yourself and search some one who loves you for what you really are, that will give you real happiness. Nothing else will do that.