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You are doing a great job keeping your attitude and spirits so positive, Leigh! Good for YOU! The love that you and your husband are starting to gently rekindle through your joint interests, is so sweet and exciting. It is wonderful to see a husband and wife enjoying family activities together again! Sometimes we just need to be reminded of what we have and how easy we can lose it to start to appreciating things again.

Good for you, Leigh! Keep up the good work and keep the faith! <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> My prayers and thoughts are with you for continued success! God bless you.

Trish

I had a great weekend. Actually, all week was pretty good. Saturday he had planned on taking our two daughters camping. On his way to pick the girls up it started to rain so he called them and told them they would do something else. When he came over I was on the porch reading. He told me he was going to take the girls out to eat and to the movies. He then asked me what I was going to do. I told him I would probably just relax at home and read. He then asked me if I wanted to go with them. I was on cloud nine that he included me in his plans. We all had alot of fun. After the movies he brought us home. Later we talked on the phone and he invited me over to his apartment. We had a great conversation talking about work, the kids, etc. We talked a little about our relationship but not much. He told me he is still wanting us to work things out and he hasn't seen a lawyer. He was very funny, loving, and really into our conversation. About a week ago I told him that I was willing to give him space but I had to see some progress. I know he still isn't ready to come home yet but I feel things are starting to improve.

People at work has even noticed a change in him in the last few days. Some of the workers he had pretty much stopped talking to and now he is talking to them again.

Thanks for all the wonderful advice.

Leigh A

This is GREAT news! It sounds so very positive and I'm glad to hear that he is becoming more like himself, funny and loving. Taking you along on the dinner and movie date with the girls was a really cool thing to do and spending time afterwards talking is really a big step forward!

Keep the faith, Leigh. Our thoughts and prayers are with you! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Trish

Excellent news, Leigh! I am so glad for you. Take it slowly and one step at a time. This like "married dating."

He met us at the football game again last night. One of the police officers that works where we do was there. His son plays football. The guy was about four seats to the right of us with three empty seats between them. I actually thought he would of moved over some to talk to him but he never left my side. Even though we didn't do alot of talking that made me feel good.

Today he told me he thought he could run away from his problems but he realize he can't. He said regardless where he is at he is going to have to deal with them.

Leigh A

That's great. I'm glad things are going so well for the two of you. It sounds like he might want his wife and family back

Leigh, I am so glad that you and your husband are having these times together again. It is a great reminder of what you have and what you have been missing. Keep enjoying it and make sure to have fun! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

He seems to want and need you and is glad to be back beside you, which is evidenced by the fact that he did not move from your side to get closer to talk to ya'lls friend. <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Something at your house still bugs him, though, and I would just let it be and let him continue to live alone and work it out by himself until he is ready to talk to YOU about it. I got a distinct feeling that he was giving you a heartfelt insight into himself when he said "he thought he could run away from his problems but he realize he can't. He said regardless where he is at he is going to have to deal with them." Let him keep inviting ya'll out and showing up to family events.

Keep the faith and keep your chin up, Leigh. This is all going to work out in your favor in due time and your family will continue to heal and have more happy times. My thoughts and prayers are with you, take time to enjoy yourself and your husband, and God bless all of you. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Trish

Today makes two month's since we have been living apart. It just seems like a very slow process. I feel today is one of the worst day's I have had since this has started. I didn't sleep much last night and I feel so drained today. I know I have to keep my chin up but some days seems so much harder than others.

Leigh A

Some days will be harder than others, Leigh, because change is always difficult. My dad used to tell me that anything good was worth waiting for so I guess that is the best thing I can say about this being a slow process. I'm sorry that this feels like one of the worst days since it all started, but try to remember how good you felt when your husband asked you to go to dinner and the movies and then back to his apartment to talk. Keep those happy pictures in your mind when the dark thoughts come around. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Smile alot and try to keep a happy song in your heart. <img src="/images/graemlins/music.gif" alt="" />

Our good thoughts and prayers are with you! Bless you! <img src="/images/graemlins/fish.gif" alt="" />

Trish

Hello everybody. There isn't alot going on with us right now. We are still living apart. We haven't really done anything together since Sept. 9th. We're still talking but nothing has changed. He is still wanting space and time. He told me the time is helping but I'm not completely sure in what way.

I have to admit when we was together I nagged and lost my temper alot. I nagged so much that at times I didn't realize I was doing it. I haven't actually nagged at him for a while now. The problem is if I bring up our relationship in a calm manner he thinks I am nagging. I haven't lost my temper for about two month's. He says people can't change that quick. I must admit at times I want to yell at him for the way he occassionally acts but I have held my tongue.

There are good days and bad days. I keep telling myself everything will work out in time. The problem I have is each day I keep thinking it has been long enough. I keep thinking if he doesn't want us together then I wish he would just say it is over so I can get on with my life without him. There are the days where I want to tell him myself that it's over. Those days I feel like he is just stringing me along and keeping me around as a safety net. Then there are the days where he is nice, loving, caring, and funny. Acting like his old self so I think just a little more time. I'm trying to be strong about it.

I keep praying for God to show me the way. It might not be the path I wanted but at least it will a path.

Leigh A