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So you see...Even under a 'supervised' visit, she tried to pull the rug from under your feet. I trust you are now going to change the locks....?



Under the circumstances, it would be perfectly understandable if you decided to not do this.....



...I rest my case......!!



GREAT!! - There's a 'Cheaters' episode to look out for!!

Funny you mention that show. I thought about contacting them.

Yeah, I was really upset about the things she was taking and I asked her not to take them and informed her what she was doing was illegal, but she didn't care.

So, all of her stuff in the garage, the locks are changed and I started decorating the house the way I want last night. It is kind of liberating, but sad at the same time.

All these dreams of a house, kids, etc... have been put to the side just when I was starting to enjoy them, but God has a reason for this.

My poor mother is so worried, but when I was a kid (3rd grade) my father passed. Mom had to work all the time and I took care of my two brothers, so I told her this isn't anything I can't handle considering what I've already been through.

Should I file for divorce or wait till she does? I'm thinking about giving it some time at this point, let her make some more mistakes and then file? What did you ladies do?

Forgive me Eddie, but hasn't she done enough, already? You have proof accumulated of her infidelity... That's sufficient grounds, and when you contact a lawyer, be sure to tell him about the stuff she's removed, and that you want compensation for them....

....Or is that Judge Judy....??

Sorry, I'm not laughing at your expense...More giving you an idea of my prime time viewing...


I need to get a life....!!

But seriously...If there aren't enough grounds for you already, just what are you waiting for?

If you are waiting for her to make more mistakes, then you at least ought to be getting proof that she is making them.

Right now it is just your word against hers. And maybe some friend's words against hers. They don't fly in court very well. You might want to check into a private detective - they can be pricey - but if you think your ex might try to sue you for alimony or a good amount of the property - it could be worth it. Ask your lawyer what he (she?) thinks - and for any reccomendations.

I just talked to my lawyer and she said I should file for divorce immediately.

I rest my case your Honour...Just call me Perry.....!! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Perry!

I talked to one of my neighbors last night and he said, his wife and my wife have been talking via e-mail. She has been checking up on what I'm doing.

I'm getting such a kick out of that it is rediculous. People are so funny. Too bad she cheated, too bad I'm not interested in the relationship any longer.

Well that's real neighbourly of her....!

The great thing is that your neighbour's wife has got so little to be able to report back....

What you need to do is get together with at least fifty female colleagues, invite them round to your place, for a bikini party, ALL AT THE SAME TIME..... and then see what happens!!

PS: Do not do this.

I am only joking.

I think since the original furore of your break-up has now blown over and all the 'fuss' has died down, you're probably able to step back more easily and view things a little more objectively...

I'm sure you have plenty of 'good' people around you to offer and provide a strong network of support. Those who care, and are worth it, will stick around...Those who start falling by the wayside are worth letting go of.

You're bound to have your ups and downs, and even though 'stage one' seems to have run it's course, you still have a way to go...And it may not be pretty.

Always come back for dialogue, exchange and just to off-load if you want...We'll still be here....
But I think you got it covered, Eddie. I think you're doing just fine.

(PS: I am the least 'shark-like' person I know....!!)

Shark like?

The party is a good idea and I'm sure it would drive her nuts, but it wouldn't look too good, though, it would be enjoyable.

I think she is finally understanding I have moved on at this point. I have cut her off from the house and managing the finances. This has completely eliminated her from having anything to do with me. Thankfully, she has gotten a P.O. Box for her mail, so I don't even have to see her for that. ahhhh...... It feels so good to be able to relax for the moment. I will certainly be back on the board. I really enjoy talking and commenting.

Under my name...you, it seems, are an amoeba....

I refrain from comment.

(Just kidding!)