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Warding off the Energy Vampires

The first person I thought of was my 3 yr old, LOL <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I swear, at the end of the night, i'm draggin, and he's just revving up more and more (until he passes straight out)!

I have family members that are HUGE energy vampires. I am going to try the crystals.

LOL Michelle, bless his heart. I think toddlers are just naturally tiring- it's trying to keep up with them that does it! I read a piece where a top athlete tried to do everything a toddler did over a day & couldn't keep up.

Eva, I've found black obsidian very useful. You can visualise yourself curling up inside it & nothing nasty can get to you. This isn't about turning away from your family, but it is about preserving your own energy. In fact when you stop them draining you, you'll probably be able to think more fondly of them. (They may not like the change at first...they are going to have to learn to process energy for themselves!)

I enjoyed your article, Lauren, especially your tips! I tend to give too much energy to everyone and even though I've learned to avoid some vampires, I still get drained!

Sometimes the vampires provide a useful lesson for us about maintaining our boundaries & looking after ourselves. The most useful people in the world learn to look after themselves first, because if you fall apart you are no use to anyone else. I'm still working on that one myself <img src="/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

People are inseparable. We are all inter-connected, there is no difference or division between other people and us... Think of it as an ocean, vast and deep.... and watch the waves, rise, froth, curl and fall... all separate, but all made of the same water... and as they fall they reunite with the ocean, and intermingle and remain water, then they rise again... But they never lose the sameness with the ocean...
These vampires are exaggerated manifestations of our own fears, anxieties and despair... they simply manifest as a tsunami rather than a ripple.... but we recognise the same demons in them, as exist in us....
In order to shield ourselves form their influence, recognise your similarities, and weaknesses, but perceive also your own uniqueness and control. Be available, but guard yourself from being dragged under... remain on the crest, rather than falling to the depths.

We are all interconnected, you are right, this is the very reason that our own energy needs care. We can do great good through the web of life or great harm depending on our natures and intentions and we can receive energy from anywhere around the world through this interconnectedness.

Energy vampires simply can't get into a well maintained system. They do need something, possibly a fear or repressed feelings, to hook into, however most of us provide those hooks without realising it.

We all have a shadow self. Even me <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" /> I wouldn't dream of printing the things I've been calling someone recently, although it would give a lot of people round here a laugh <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

OOOh!! OOOh! PM me with it, PM me with it!! <img src="/images/graemlins/devil.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You'll have to imagine it <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> & then make it much worse <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Great article Lauren. I have seen these "needy" folks as giving me the lessons in strengthening my own boundaries too. I have had clients over the years who were such energy vampires. What I found out was that they hooked up to my energy because I let them. When a client calls you at home at 10pm and wants to vent and you LET them, there is definately a boundary issue LOL. I have pretty good boundaries now <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I have two tots (now 9 and 6) and I remember when I was breastfeeding! It seemed like everyone wanted a piece of mama, and mama got nothing in return! Then my midwife gave me this poster to hang in my bedroom called "Meditations for women who do too much." One of the sayings on it that has stuck with me is "Solitude is not a luxery. It's a right and a necessity." It was then I taught my family the meaning of "if mama's not happy, no one is happy." BLAR HAR HAR HAR! Once I learned to take time for myself I felt SOOOO much more rejuvinated.

Maybe (being an ex-kid myself <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ) I could just point out the difference between kids (who seem to know exactly which buttons to push, I admit) and adults... Our children are without doubt, 'energy vampires'... But there's a need there, a desire to be near the mother and be nurtured...
Families are certainly in this category also, especially those who haven't moved on from "father is the financial provider, mom does just about everything else!" mind-set...
But 'strangers' and 'friends' are different. They have no emotional attachment or agenda... they just see it and want it for themselves.....so in a sense they're more selfish and dangerous. At least we get love back from our families (generally... i don't want to get into realms of dysfunction here....!!)and we have a good time with them, now and then.... but these vampires outside of the family realm are more insiduous, cunning and emotionally draining.

A Good way to judge it is if you spend a lot of time talking to your partner or mature kids about this person's problems - then they've got you exactly where they want you. Your lives revolving around theirs.

I had two emotional leeches, or vampires... and I dealt with them in a really effective, and astonishingly quick way.
No wooden stakes or blood-shed involved.... wanna know more....? <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

As I said in the article with our children we mostly donate our energy quite willingly, it is kind of in the parental job description, but we need to take especial care of ourselves when family members get ill, otherwise we end up on our knees.

I've had those client lessons too Deanna- you have to learn them quickly or you end up one burned out therapist. Sounds like you had a very switched on midwife!

I'd love to hear how you dealt with your vampires Alexandra. Please share <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Unfortunately, those who are "vampires" are usually the saddest of us all. The reason they hang on and attempt to suck us dry has as much to do with their bottomless need as it does our need to help...Sometimes a stake thru the heart is the kindest end...at least to our misery. Running away works too; I highly recommend it!

I have a client who is an energy vampire. When our appointment is over I will walk her out and take my next client in. When I come out an hour later my first client is sometimes still in the waiting room talking to the receptionist LOL. The poor receptionist ends up looking like a trapped deer everytime my client walks in the door LOL. She's getting better though, and our receptionist is learning all about boundaries now too <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Well thank you...
I don't pass these on as a trophy-ism... that is to say, I'm not trying to show how clever I was, I'm just passing this on in the hope that maybe the example will help others....

The first was a lady I had known for some time... she had married a colleague of mine, and for the first couple of years of their marriage, all seemed idyllic.... then they seemed to 'age' thirty years... they became mr & mrs. Moron, and bickered and whinged at everything...
I would get a call from her at least twice a week, whining about something else that had gone wrong, or someone who'd let them down, or how she and her husband were at each others' throats...
My eldest daughter, (then aged six) received a late birthday card from her. Instead of enclosing maybe a separate letter or note, for me, she wrote, atually in the card, something along the lines of:
"Dear Pippa, sorry this card is late, but hubby has been made redundant, and the dog has had to have a life-saving operation, and I this, and we that, and goodness knows how we'll manage, and I just don't know what we'll do next...sob sob...."
Well, that was the final straw. In a birthday card?? To a six-year-old - ??
So I wrote back.
Dear B.," I said, "Sorry to hear about your plethora of mishaps. We are doing really well! Hubby has received a raise, and I have found a job working in.... and Pippa's doing very well in her new school, and the garden is looking really lovely and all my roses are out...."
I kept my letter so upbeat, it almost sang....

I never heard from her again.

The other person would come round at all hours of the day (and night!) she ruined a new year's party I was holding, by turning up at ten to midnight, beating on the door, crying her eyes out, moaning because the married man she was having an affair with was spending new year's eve with his wife...! Happy New year everybody.... !!

With young kids, I very rarely ever went out, but one night, I had been invited to a hen-night, and I mentioned it to her, including the venue... That evening, whilst out with my friends, having a good time and being out for the first time in - I kid you not - possibly two years - I received a phone call from the local hospital telling me she had been brought in having taken an overdose. I had no choice as she had given my name as next of kin (!!) to go to the hospital.
Awful as it sounds, I'm sorry to say that there is no doubt in my mind that she did this quite deliberately. She knew exactly where I'd be, at what time and just wanted the attention....She hadn't taken enough, it appears, to have done any real lasting damage, but they'd pumped her out nevertheless...
After her recovery, she took a holiday and went to Spain to stay with her parents in the villa they'd bought for their retirement. She wrote me a long letter (think "woe is me" for three sides of A4!!) and I wrote back telling her that basically, everything I'd ever advised her to do, she had without exception turned round and done the opposite. So she was on her own now. her mistakes were hers, and hers alone to make, and jolly good luck.
Apparently, I found out later, this letter made her absolutely seethe, and she broke a few things into the bargain. She called me all the names undder the sun, and said I was trecherous....How do I know this? Her mother wrote to me begging me for advice... on how to deal with her 43-year old daughter - ?? She was eating, drinking and smoking them out of house and home....
I'm afraid I gave her short shrift as well.

A friend of mine dealt with an emotional vampire, by saying -
"Yes, we've covered that one, I told you what I think, now let's move on. Next...?"

Again, that one disappeared back into the woodwork...!!

Alexandra,
I think you handle them very well. When people would ask me how I am doing I would jokingly say "I'm ok, I could complain but who would listen" and I thought it was kinda funny but I have stopped saying that, alot of people took it too serious.

Great methods Alexandra. The upbeat reply was my absolute favourite <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Very interesting that when you decided 'enough was enough' they went elsewhere for a feed. Roni is right, they are usually very sad people & draining you dry won't be enough to fill their own emptiness. They have to learn about self-responsibility & sometimes this kind of firm 'no more' approach really is all that will work.
Your poor receptionist Deanna. The unfortunate thing is I used to work at a complementary health centre where the receptionist *was* the energy vampire & she would try to get her teeth into you before your clients arrived. She would even pour out her woes to your clients as they sat in the waiting room- it was unbelievable. Not really a suitable person for that setting <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

No... But what a great basic idea for a comedy show....!!

LOL you are soooo right <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

This discussion was sorely needed- we all have those folks we want to love better, but dread seeing because they just drain us thoroughly. I have a dear friend who's the stay at home mom of two young children, and her home is chaos. You are all right- her vampiric tendencies are definitely of the "rescue me from my life" kind. She is ultra needy. Another friend and I try to regularly bolster up our reserves and invite her out to "girls day out" even springing for a sitter if needed, just because we do love her.
Another kind of emotional vampire... know anyone who can just by sitting in a corner suck all of the joy out of a party? I'll bet everyone knows one of those too!

As Lauren rightly pointed out, it's a mental attitude that can be so insiduously debilitating... and one we personally have to build up a defence of some kind, be it a positive mental attitude and a refusal to be sucked dry, or an actual development of Wei Qi (protective energy, according to Chinese medicine) Wei Qi is controlled by the Metal channel, which is manifested through the organs of (yin) Lungs and (yang) Large intestine....

so deep breaths, and diaphragmatic exercises can increase this Wei Qi.

Either that, or passing wind could deter them...





DID I SAY THAT OUT LOUD - ??!!??

OH MY GOODNESS, hahahahahaha. Well ok then I will add that to my list but I wanted to point out that will not work if you are on the phone !!!!!

Oh Alexandra that did make me laugh! <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/rolling.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Trish's friend is a good example of someone that needs an energy feed because she's exhausted, but is worth helping, up to a point at least, as she's so nice. The sit in the corner & drain the joy type reminds me of someone that we nicknamed the 'Dementor' (Harry Potter creature) for this uncanny knack. She was a nice caring woman in some ways, but your energy plummeted when you saw her. <img src="/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I can always be trusted to lower the tone..... <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Good <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> You are very welcome here <img src="/images/graemlins/queen.gif" alt="" />

I can't help but wonder how much of a "vampire" I was during my "bile black" periods of my depression.

I know I never conciously did this (because until your article I never thought about it.) But I do know that the depression had me completely exhausted - even not wanting to leave bed sometimes. It had to have worn off on at least my husband at times.

<img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> It makes me feel bad that I did that, even unwittingly.

No wonder psychiatrists have such a high rate of suicide among their profession.

Gee, I've read right to the end of this thread and am wondering if I have unconsciously brought about the end of my relationship.

Is it possible for a partner to 'take on' all your pain, to the extent that they become drained and depleted, without your intending this to happen?

Is this type of thing to be expected where one partner is seriously and chronically ill for long periods of time?

I would never have wanted this to happen, but my partner says it did. I feel just terrible about that because it is something I would never have allowed, had I known it was happening. OR, could I have prevented it? My partner was one of those people who felt she had to protect me and 'save' me from her own fears and worries.

What can you do in a case like this? How can I stop this from happening again?

I'm no expert, but I think everyone's responsible for their own actions, so if your partner took them on (which I believe can happen), then he/she needs to take some responsibility.

That said, I've always called persons described by this article psychic vampires. My ex was a psychic vampire and suffered from a malady every single day I was with him. Every single day for ten long long years. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> He was a hypochondriac, but on top of that, his phony illnesses were a way to focus the relationship on him all the time. He was self-aware and was in fact the first person to tell me about psychic vampires. Oh, the irony?

I'm a strong woman and I don't need lots of attention, but after a while, I needed to nurture myself first. My happiness wasn't something he cared about.

No one else can define you or your own happiness, and I take that to heart every day. You need to go out and find it. It's easy to tell where it's NOT. If a situation or person is not meeting this basic need, you need to avoid it, and that includes family and job, unfortunately.

Once I cleared my personal space of this psychic vampire, I found a man who makes me happy every day with his humor and selflessness. Lots of things then fell in place, like a new job.

Moral of the story - avoid the energy zappers. =P

I think, if we're all honest, there have been times in our lives when we've all been needy, and energy vampires ourselves, without realising it, to a greater or lesser extent. But thankfully, we recognise it, acknowledge it and let it go. It is only through recognition of it in us, that we can truly perceive it in others..... and it is only by seeing it in others that maybe, our little lightbulb comes on, and we realise....
"Oh, Man!! I think I used to do that.....!"
Hence my post earlier on interconnectedness....
Here's a bit of a pointer for you, if it helps.....

An EV is basically someone who has so much going on in their minds, they can't see the wood for the trees, and in an effort to untangle it all, attempt to offload it onto others whom they perceive are far more capable than they are of carrying the load. But then, that's it. They really DO want to offload...they want somebody else to carry the can....
Because every single time anyone offers a viable, reasonable, logical and workable solution to the problem, they will always - BUT ALWAYS - come back with the classic rejoinder....

"Yes, But....."

And they'll plant a great big fat personal objection - hurdle, preventative measure - as to why that too, couldn't possibly work....

THEY don't want to solve their problem.... THEY don't want to have to do any work, or make any effort, or change anything they're doing, to improve things..... "YOU'RE" supposed to do that - !!

Very often, they'll continue with rejoinder # 2:
"Yes, but - WHAT IF.....?" and they put a dreadful imaginary plan-wrecker in the way....
Nobody ever answers the 'what if?' bit....
So make them answer it....
"Yes, ok, What if....? What's the worst that can happen?"

That makes them step back and think.... But you'll get more yessbutts, and whatifs all the way down the line.....
Keep challenging them. Put the ball in their court.
One of two things will happen:

They will actually slowly begin to 'see sense' and start crawling out of this pit of despair, or

They'll call you, less and less and less......

"Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, yet still expecting a different result...."

Patience & Michelle, don't start to feel guilty now about what you may or may not have done in the past. As Alexandra points out we have all done it at least a little at some point. Most people do not deliberately drain others & if you are ill then loved ones naturally tend to donate energy. We can use past mistakes to learn from though.

Now you are aware of this possibility you can take self-responsibilty for your energy needs. When you find other ways to strengthen your own energy, like good diet, healthy exercise, enough sleep, fresh air, getting a healing and so on, you stop dragging on others & this can only improve your relationships for the future.

Think from now on about where your energy is coming from & where it is going to.

I knew an energy werewolf once. Big, hairy and a bit...oh sorry, wrong forum* I think we'll just leave it there.

* forget about this

My question was, is an energy vampire the same thing as a psychic vampire?, but then I read DarlingPoor's post! Recently when I had my aura photographed, the man said with the aura being yellow, I was going to attract psychic vampires. A Big Red Flag went up! I screeched "OMG! are these real people or only energy? Because if they are not real I am screwed!!!" I had visions of invisible things getting me, somehow, and when he stopped chuckling he told me that they are real people, and I Know Them. He is right. When I get around them, which I avoid, I am unhappy and annoyed, and I leave. It took years before I recognized this in people. BTW I have been married to one for over twenty years. The only way I can deal with it is to keep conversation to a minimum <img src="/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />, but he is gone a lot, and I don't talk much, so that works.

Thank goodness in the main they are real people & you can take steps to avoid them (though marrying one can make this a bit tricky- often they will be very clingy and can drag you down!)

I have come across accounts of some who have passed over but remain clinging on to the person they 'fed from' in life. In that situation they very firmly need directing to the Light!

I believe that energy vampires aren't always aware of what they are....or are doing.
I have this issue with them everyday....I don't know how many lessons I'm supposed to learn from this experience because we live together. <img src="/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

This thread reminds me of Stephen King's novel "Insomnia". There were creatures, both on this plane and "higher up" that would suck the energy from others.

It talked about how many people would do it without realizing it. I wonder if Mr. King had studied psychic vampires, or thought he was making this up on his own? <img src="/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

This is why it's important to realise that to some degree or another, we've all done it, and been there....

I'm going to stick my neck out here, and say something that I certainly learnt for myself - though I strongly resisted this notion for a while, because actually, the lesson was painful -

People treat us in specific ways because we give them permission to do so. We let them.

Communication is a two-way street. If someone thinks they can get away with doing something, given the 'right' signals, they will. And until they receive the signal to do otherwise, they'll keep right on doing it.
So we can complain all we like that we're surrounded by these vampires, and that we live with them and that they drain us...
But if it's a repetitive pattern, then it's always the same lesson. And someone isn't getting it.

As I said above, Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and hoping for a different result. That goes as much for the "Receiver" as the "Giver"......

If we want the patterns of other people to change, then WE have to change the signals we give them.

Do you know I think a lot of authors and artists pick up information consciously or subconsciously on a psychic level and that is their inspiration. I don't go for Stephen King though- too scary for me <img src="/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> there's enough of that stuff to deal with in normal life!

Alexandra makes an excellent point about changing the signals we give. We aren't helpless victims, we can learn & change and it is a two way process.

I know this is a bit off-topic, so i apologise...
But I have a real problem with movie-makers who make deliberately violent, horrifying, frightening, distasteful and "negative" movies... or Authors who write books of this genre... I know and understand that there's a market for them - but there's a difference between reading or watching, and actually being responsible for their creation or publication...
There is no question in my mind that these people are very talented, but -
What on earth makes the likes of Quentin Tarantino and Stephen King Tick? What on earth makes them want to create something that will turn people's stomachs? <img src="/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

I don't know the answer. Perhaps it's their way of unloading their fears/nightmares and making them into something they have control over. Unfortunately it makes more for others of us! (I can't watch or read anything from either one.)

Hello Denise, welcome to the forum <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I think you have hit the nail on the head (or through the skull with a powertool as these writers would have it).

We all have 'shadow' aspects of ourselves. I think they are examining these darker regions with gusto...though probably dwelling in them rather too much & letting them take over at times!

The rest of us need to choose whether we expose ourselves to this stuff, as some seem to take it without being disturbed, others, me included, don't enjoy it and others let it slowly dehumanise & desensitise them.

Thanks, and ewwwww!

Wow, that is so interesting. I should have my aura photographed. Where do you go to get that done?

Well weekend after next I have a Mind, Body, Spirit fair in Mid Wales where we will have the aura photographer. I get to have mine done free as he calibrates the machine <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

However if that is a little too far I'd look for similar fairs in your neighbourhood- most of these guys travel with their cameras.

I've had my aura drawn but never photographed. I was very pregnant with daughter 1 at the time and the artist said that my aura was very pink and inward turned as is often the case with pregnant moms. I did a long term scientific test to prove/disprove this however as who knows if what someone says s/he sees is actually there? I went for another aura read, when not pregnant, got a different image. I went back when I was very early on in pregnancy #2 (couldn't tell by looking at me) and got the same inward turned pink aura thing going on. Ok, I'm convinced.
Have fun!

Yes, Wales is a bit far for me over here in California. lol!

However, a full Britain, Ireland, Scotland tour is in the future for the husband and I, including a stop off in Glastonbury to see the Tor, the Chalice Well, etc. What are your thoughts on those?

We'll dip (of course) into lovely Wales along our way north to Yorkshire Dales and on up to Scotland and that rosicrucian chapel up there (sorry, mind just went blank on me of name of it).

We have an active New Age community here, I'll try to find one. Of course, the aura changes based on how we're feeling and the like, right?

I would love to know how you got read of the energy vampires!!I have an aunt that has this woman that she feels sorry for and the emotional leech is maniplualteing her. she has tried every what way to get her to leave her be but she knows what buttons to push. the lady is not all there but she is not as dumb as she pretends to be either. and If i step in the woman will hear me LOUD AND CLEAR and she WILL REMEMBER TO BACK OFF. my aunt does not think that it is a nice chirstain way of handling the problem but hey even Jesus got mad with rightous angry and distroyed the temple. and God make Mose wonder around in the dessert for 40 years on a 11 day trip... I just want the (lady) to take a trip to back off land!!! what so wrong with that? <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/devil.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

I had an Aura reading (not photographed but 'seen' by a Welsh psychic of considerable renoun for his accuracy)and he told me that mine had mainly blue with predominant violet, and that it kept 'swirling and changing'. There was also green. Does anyone know what this means or represents?

he also accurately saw in my aura that I had suffered a serious illness recently. How do they do this? I have tried to 'see' the auras around things, but the most I have been able to see is a 'white' type of 'energy field' around them - usually about one or two iches in width.

Anyone else tried this?

What a great post! Makes me wonder, I have always had a fear of energy vampires without ever knowing what to call them... I believe this is what I have been trying to avoid all my life. I tend to draw people, make friends easy, I am open, honest and pretty fun to be around. But in a crowd, which I cannot stand, people want to be around me... I am not outgoing or a party girl, however since I was little I find myself surrounded. I tend to avoid these situations. A family gathering does not bother me, nor does a gathering of coworks. Most are pretty strong energetic people. Strangers though I cannot handle well.

There are 4 of us out front in our advertising team and one other girl and I have a "thing". When boss man aka slinky gets in a mood we remind each other to surround ourselves with the white light.

I also go through computers very quickly and cannot wear a watch (I kill batteries with amazing speed).

I will be changing the angle of the chair on the other side of my desk and start doodling, sounds like a good habit. I had an aunt who used to doodle constantly when talking to a certain person on the phone...

Oh my, this got long... lots of light bulbs going off in my head!

Green is a sign of Healing, grow or of jeolousy purple is a royal color and blue is calm or depressed. Swirling is normal if it swirles one way it means your takeing energy the other your giveing it away. the changing maybe a balance thing... I would say your trying to get grounded and heal your self from whatever... on the other hand it my indecate a charkra imbalance my not a pro or anything but i have read book on the subjuct and starting to study chakras too. hope this helps you. <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Freebubbles, that's very interesting. I'll have to see if I can find a book on it to read up on. This is a most interesting subject!

I know one lady who couldn't wear watches either, she'd break them all.

Goes to show you, there is far more going on than the naked eye can see!

My mom had the same problem with watches; i use to. it have something to do with you magnetic energy. moms batterys would not run down her watch would stop and she could take it off and put it down and it would run just fine. Her sister could ware awatch and it would run backwards and keep perfect time. I dont think they ever have to replace batterys. me on the other hand drain the battery. If you know some one that does Biofeedback they could tell you whats going on. I was going to go to one but i could not afford one and insuence wont pay.

My batteries just drain fast. When I was little the watch would start working when I took it off and set it down somehere.

instead of killing watch batteries and the like...i went through a spell where i just could not wear amethyst because theyd keep breaking on me. true you can have a poorly cut stone...but not 4 in 2 years?

I break hermatite. That cracked me up because it is supposed to calm scattered energies... I was telling somebody about it and I was totally stressed when we were talking... about stress... and the thing broke in 3 pieces LOL.

I think you'll love Glastonbury. It is one of my absolute favourite places & the Tor & Chalice Well Gardens are fantastic! It is quite magical <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />Here's a taster Chalice Well The chapel I think is called Rosslyn. I haven't been there though...one day!

You are right the aura changes with your moods & your health.

As long as you wish no harm on this lady. You may be helping your aunt, but be sure she really wants the help. Tempting though it is we shouldn't interfere in other adults' business unless invited. Your aunt may need to learn to stand up for herself as part of her own spiritual growth; this doesn't mean that you can't chat to her about it all & suggest ideas. I wrote an article on this subject here: Warding Off the Energy Vampires

Patience, some clairvoyants can perceive the emotional body of the aura very clearly, whereas most people can see the etheric with a little practice, which you describe seeing. I give some basic information about the seeing the aura in this article: Basic Aura Color Information

The illness is perceived as congestion in the aura. I 'see' it in my mind's eye as grey & murky patches, but some can physically view this.

There's a long thread on auras here too, if anyone wants to read it: What Color Is Your Aura?

Btw Trishh pink is often found in a pregnant woman's aura. I wonder if that is why girl babies are often put in pastel pink.

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Anamaree the watch thing is quite common with healers. I think it is the extra energy running through our systems. I've had my latest one for about eight months now & that's a record! Normally a few weeks max is all I get & putting in a new battery only gives me another few weeks. I chose this one as it had butterflies on the strap & dial & they are one of my power animals- maybe my fondness for them has helped!

Wendy & Anamaree I think those stones were working very hard! they were probably exactly what you needed at the time, but took in so much negative energy on your behalf that they shattered. I've come across this with rose quartz when someone has had an emotional trauma, though it hasn't happened to me personally.

I wish no one harm and my aunt wants help needs help but i dont think she would aprove of any help other then Christian pray and logical talk. and the lady while not as dumb as she want everyone to believe is not able to understand reason either. so i dont know what to do/not do...

Thank you Lauren, I looked at the sites you mentioned and can see that the colours the psychic saw are in fact descriptive of me. Pretty accurate!

As an aside, I have noticed that Welsh people do seem to have psychic gifts in abundance! Is this something to do with the celtic connection, or what do you think?

I had a year back in my early 20s where all my amethyst jewelry broke over the course of about 18 months. Suffice to say, I've learned to better manage my energy rather than blindly letting my crystals try and handle it. I broke 3-4 pieces of amethyst in that time, about the same rate as you.

On a practical note - Amethyst is not only vulnerable to water, but also to light....If kept in even ordinary daylight, Amethyst will, over time, fade and lose much of its colour....Some other crystals are like this also....

My rose quartz likes sombre conditions.....

When you consider under what conditions these crystals are created, this is hardly surprising......

So maybe I can find me a froggy watch. I love froggies! I did make me a beaded amethyst watch and made it extra loose, like a bracelet. I wear it no more than eight hours at a time and only once every few weeks. I have had it a year. Then again, it does spend most of its time safely away from me <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

If a Christian friend asks me to pray, I do what works for me. Some prayer, candles, whatever feels right for the situation.