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I'm wondering what the rest of you think of the stereotypes attached to the childfree? I mean, my reasons not to have kids are generally based on self interest. I think that is why my decision doesn't go over so well with people.

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isn't every important decision a person makes in their life based on self interest? I mean you can't very well make a decision for someone else can you? Why would child free be stereotyped like that and NOT people who choose to have children for their own self interest? Does anyone who has a baby say to themselves "I think I will have a child so I can be selfless"?---no, everyone I know with a child wanted one to make themselves feel better in some way.


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I totally agree. All important choices that people make in life are made to further their own interests. What I don't get is the negative stigma attached to people who don't want kids. Why are our reasons so important to other people and why should they have to be justified? I also don't get why it is so taboo not to be a 'kid person'. I mean, I generally like kids but I see nothing wrong with someone who isn't comfortable around them and prefers the company of adults. As long as they aren't spewing forth hatred or hurting kids, what is the big deal?

It really ticks me off that the childfree are often compared to the KKK and the Nazis if you dare to say a bad word about a kid. I recently read a post in a blog that was comparing the childfree to the KKK.

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I also don't get why it is so taboo not to be a 'kid person'. I mean, I generally like kids but I see nothing wrong with someone who isn't comfortable around them and prefers the company of adults. As long as they aren't spewing forth hatred or hurting kids, what is the big deal?

It really ticks me off that the childfree are often compared to the KKK and the Nazis if you dare to say a bad word about a kid. I recently read a post in a blog that was comparing the childfree to the KKK.


Oh, oh. I can answer. My mom imbedded these reasons in my head as a little girl. She talked about my childfree aunts all the time in a very negative way.

The bigggest one I learned was:
Not wanting children means you are cold. It means you don't care about people.

The KKK don't care about black people. Childfree people don't care about babies. Childfree is interpreted as being baby-haters. It is very old-fashioned, I know.

My mother taught me that childfree was very wrong. Yet in my adult life that is exactly what I am. But I am not a cold person or whatever negative stereotype goes with being CF. I am not my mother's favorite daughter and I know it's because of the CF thing. It pisses me off all the time how much she favors my sister whose life is so messed up because of her inability to make sound decisions, but she has children so she is the "blessed" one. <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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Well one stero-type that is right in one way is that were "selfish" and I just say that because a lot of our reasons not to have kids is because we chose to live our lives for us and not children. And thats Okay, it's our life. But it doesnt mean were "cold".

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I personally don't see how not wanting kids is anymore selfish than the reasons that people do have them. I mean, the motivating factors for having kids are all self interested. Heck, the very fact that they all start with "I want" shows that it is self interested. The common reasons for having kids are because they want a family, they want to pass on their genes, they want to carry on the family name, want to see what their and their partner's genes will make and want to enjoy parenthood. I'd be interested in seeing the parent that truly plans a kid for the good of humanity. There is nothing wrong with having kids simply because you want to. I mean, who makes a life-altering decision that is not based one bit on self interest?

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The reason I have chosen to be CF came about when I was 12 years old - for many reasons, not only "selfish" reasons. This is a screwed up world and is full of screwed up people - one of the most important reasons for wanting to be CF. I would never want to expose a new life to this world. The childed can stereotype me all they want but when I'm tucked snugly into my bed with my husband and 7 fuzzy faced children, sleeping soundly at 2 am, I can relish in the fact that someone, somewhere, is awake with a screaming child. I am so glad that will never be my life!!!!!

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I get what your saying Stacey, I was just saying that when you have kid's you give a lot of yourself up and we decided not to do that. We like our time to be our own.

But my time isnt totally my own either. I work all the time, and sometimes instead of being up with a kid at 2am I am getting on a plane or getting calls. So I feel for the mother's will sleep problems, I have them too.

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and the KKK thing is just flat out ignorance because of all the groups to compare anyone to those people are way PRO-children. That is their whole point--to 'protect' their white protestant children from other 'undesirables' so that their 'race' will continue! Geesh a google will get you that info on page one. those people are idiots. personally I think idiots should be banned from reproducing. but then the human race might die out.

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"I think idiots should be banned from reproducing. but then the human race might die out."

Oh that's great! I have to use that somewhere. <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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