BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids A lot of parents on this board *DELETED*

I used to feel like I could just explode when people told me that. But, then I thought of the old "protest too much" kind of thing, so I just boil inside in a rage. You know, they would trust us to know we don't want to be rapist and murderers and no one ever says "you'll change your mind" about that. So, why can we not be trusted to know ourselves enough to know we don't want kids.

I'm a parent, I have a daughter & she has 5 beautiful kids. I lost my adopted son to a drug overdose. So, I am one to give a warning about adoption services. I was never told the really important things about my son's biological parents. If I had been, I'd been more prepared for what our lives were like with my son. Also, if someone does not want to have kids, they shouldn't! It's nobody's business but your own. I am so happy I have my daughter, & I am glad I was able to be my son's Momma. But, there might be some perks for those who wish to remain childless. It's your life, you are the only one who can make that choice. <img src="/images/graemlins/rolling.gif" alt="" /> [color:"red"] [/color]

Thanks for the support - but by your signature and comments about adoption - I wonder why the Married/No Kids forum is someplace you are posting???

It's nice you are so proud of your "mom" status ...but please accept that that is about as relevant to most childfree people (and I'm sure at least some parents) as the fact that someone bought their goldfish at the pet store. You are free to post - but those of us that are truly childfree are here to discuss issues with other CHILDFREE people!!

Also - there are many wonderful and successful people that were adopted as kids - sorry you had a bad experience - but it's always a possiblity that an adopted kid OR a kid that is rasied by its biological parents can have drug problems. But we can all see that you want to proclaim to the world that he was "faulty" from the start because of his "biological" parents and that his problems had nothing to do with you - because anything that came directly from you "MUST" be perfect!! - - which is an attitude of a lot of parents have that causes most of the behaviour of kids that we are free to rant about here!!! I wonder if he sensed this and you just don't want to admit it.....but - please don't post a reply to that here - go to an adoption or parenting board to do so!!!!! Don't use our Married/No Kids board to this end!!!

Just to clarify for all you parents lurking out there - there's no such thing as being childfree "for four years of my marriage"!!! There is also no such thing as an older parent being childfree. They are "empty-nesters".

Being childfree means you do not HAVE children, and you have NEVER given birth to or fathered a child, and you NEVER WILL. NOT EVER. NOT TODAY. NOT TOMORROW OR IN THE FUTURE.

I hate that, too, as if they know me better than I know myself; as if some magical force will make me think that getting pregnant, going through the horror of labor, having a baby and raising that baby up will make me change my mind about being childfree. UGH.

Hmm, let's see....married, NO KIDS means, married, NO KIDS, and I don't think there should be room for infiltration, but then again, it's not my board, so I guess...... <img src="/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I.TOTALLY.AGREE!!! Some folks just don't get that the word "childFREE" is NOT interchangeable with the word "childLESS." Being and remaining childfree is not just some hobby you can pick up and toss aside when you're done with it.

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Thanks for the positive words!! I'm encountering a lurking parent who seems to want to follow my posts everywhere!!! I don't have any quarrel with her - I'm here because I am childfree - and I'd like to read/post to other childfree people. If I really wanted to debate with a "mom" - I'd go to a parenting board! I wonder if that is a reasonable point of view to have regarding this "No Kids" forum.... Having a parent ask me in this forum how I thanked my mother for giving me life - well shouldn't a parent that wants to make that point be posting at some sort of anti-abortion website - since that seems to be a point made in those types of places?? I just didn't expect to get that here!! Is it ok with all you childfree folks that I like to use punctuation marks freely?!?!?!?!?

I read/post here every so often - but have to sing the praises of the www.happilychildfree.com website - the site owner will bar or delete postings from parents that just won't quit!!!

Why are you so hostile?
If I wanted to be nasty, vindictive, personal or insolent, I could be - but nothing would be further from my intention....
I am here, because I can be...I'm neither lurking, nor stalking...there are other fora I contribute to as well...
I am merely responding, and having a bit of fun...

Why are you so angry and defensive?