BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Does the idea of giving birth disgust anyone else?

Its on cable my gawd! They dont show the ladies stuff they just follow the parents around for a period of time giving their point of view on whats going on in their life while having a baby. I swear people act like your body can not get back in shape unless you are lazy. FYI your body is made to stretch. As we know for the bigger people (I dont like to call them fat)their skin can stretch. Its called life.

yeah bodies and skin can stretch--but who wants it to? and nothing will ever put your hips or your nipples back in pre-pregnancy condition. They change forever. so do your bank accounts and time constraints, not too mention your sex life- and you can never walk around your own house naked ever again.
Loss of my freedom is not worth the risk of having a baby.

i can't tell you how many women i know have complained how their bodies permanently changed after being pregnant. one of my mom's co-worker's developed an athritis type disease after giving birth which which more than likely would have remained dormant otherwise. i just don't get these people then that are bent on getting pregnant.i swear they think that they are immune to the changes in their bodies and that they will be the one person whose body recovers %100. unless you're a movie star who can afford a personal trainer(never happen!!!)also not being free to do what i want would really suck.when you're pregnant you can't do this and that and this and that. that would drive me nuts!i dont know how people do it. i can't stand having the flu for a few days and not being able to do the things i normally do. also it seems to me that people dont give a damn about the poor woman who has to go through pregnancy and labor. everyone if so busy focusing on the kid that they could care less about the woman. i watched a show once where the woman was in labor and all the parents cared about was when was she going to pop the baby out!no thanks!!
indigo

When we get older our body turns to [censored] any way so sooner or later we all going to have to cover up.

I say if you got the money do it I know I am lol. Plus nanny will come in handy for me. Hey I'll have the kid for all of you chix out there and I'll let you know if anything funky happen lol.

that's ok Cookie---have the baby for yourself if that's what you want---I know I don't want any, and I would hate for you to change your mind and resent us! <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I just saw a show on tv this morning that said the word 'mother' is more powerful as a verb than it is as a noun. 'A mother' is not anywhere near as effective as 'to mother'--and I know I have 'mothered' all my life without having to incubate another person in my body. My self esteem and sense of identity does not depend on stretch marks and lactation. The problems I have with my mother in-law is directly related to the fact that her entire identity is tied up into her children and now they are adults she feels like nobody and can't let them go.
My decision not to have children is based on emotionally healthy reasons, but any decision one way or the other is unhealthy if the woman is making it based on who she thinks she will be, because of her choice. You are not your choice. You have to be you first before you decide you want to play the role of mother or not. Otherwise it is not fair to yourself or to any children.

Thank you and you are right but I do want to be a mom to experiance all those awful and (some) good things. Even thou you never know how long those things (kids) will stick around but I can always do what my mom did to me on my 21st birthday get a court order to kick me out the house (I would never do that). I told her you could of put it in a b-day card.

Its grosser than gross.

I guess

Cookiemonsta,

I may never eat Taco Bell again. Curse you. =).

Kate