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#204292 08/05/05 01:53 PM
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Gardengirl :-)

We (the WCA/World Childfree Association) always tell people to print the UN covenant and show it to the Drs. Drs in UN member states are REQUIRED to perform a tubal or vasectomy, whether they like it or not.

I am glad to hear that your husband got his vas. You deserve to be happy and as this is what you need to be happy, you are right about standing up for yourself. I wish you best of luck.

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#204293 08/05/05 06:45 PM
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The reason I'm not getting one yet is mainly financial. Until I save some good money over the next few years (I'm almost done with school), I'll have to hold off on that. Plus, for some reason, I'd rather find a girlfriend (yes, I'm still single right now) whom I later conclude to be Ms. Right and is sure she'll be childfree herself, then we can discuss the vasectomy before I get it.

#204294 08/05/05 11:15 PM
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On the other hand, if you go ahead and get the vasectomy now, then there's now chance that your future wife can hope to "change your mind once your married". If it is already a done deal - then there are no negotiations; unless you are not as 100% sure as you think you are? I mean is it that with the right woman you would be willing to have children? If not, why wait?


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#204295 08/05/05 11:40 PM
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Oh, I'm 100% sure. What I really meant to say is that I just don't have the time and money right now. Life right now is kinda busy. And I find it more comfortable to request a vasectomy when I have a fiance instead of as a single guy. The doctor may be a bit more convinced that way. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

#204296 08/06/05 08:18 AM
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Happy CF Guy, I really think you should have that vas and give a hoot for girls you meet with who want kids. If they want kids, they can have them, but not from you.

Your childfreedom is a part of who you are as a human being. If others don't respect or understand that part of you, they don't respect or understand you at all. Time to run like the wind. YOU are the center of your life and no one else is. You deserve a wonderful cf girl and I guarantee that someday you'll find her. You deserve it! Make sure you have the money for the vas and you're gonna end up very happy...with a wonderful girl! Mark my words! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Wanting kids with the 'right' partner is bs. If you don't want' em, you don't want'em and a partner who wants a kid is NOT the right partner for you like a partner who wants to cheat on you is not what you deserve. These are the so-called dealbreakers. I wish you the best!

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I take back part of my last post. Maybe I'll get it when I have the money in a few years, even if I'm still single by the time. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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I can understand the money thing, but time is no big deal. This isn't a complicated procedure at all, most Dr.s do it in office. The incision is barely a cm (if that). They gave my husband a valium in case he was nervous which he took an hour prior to the surgery, they gave him a local injection before making the incision, they use a dissolvable suture, so you don't have to come back and have anything removed. My hubby had his done on a Friday afternoon, so he was a little sore on Saturday (Motrin and frozen peas - no kidding! took care of that) and then he was back to work on Monday. I ABSOLUTELY cannot have more children or risk kidney failure, so we had 2 sperm counts done 6 months apart and both came back 0. You do have to be careful because you have sperm built up in your testicles which you have to ahem "purge" <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> before you can start having unprotected sex. A lot of men assume they get the vas and can go straight to it, and then are surprised when they have an 8 lb bundle of joy nine months later, so there are a FEW precautions in the beginning, after that, no worries!


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Yeah, I'm aware of how a man must have multiple ejaculations, maybe about 20, to clear the remaining sperm. So if I remember that, I won't impregnante a woman accidentally. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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My husband had his consult for his VAS when he was 24 and then turned 25 in the 3 weeks we had to wait for the surgery. The Dr was great. He walked in, the nurse asked his age and how many kids he had. He said none and I don't intend to. The Dr asked the sames questions and they said okay.. lets get you set up for the surgery. He is now 26 and I am 27 and we have been married 7 years. We are so happy to not have to worry about any mistakes. We want to travel and have a life together. Children just have no place in our plans.

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Wow. I can't wait for my ticket to freedom. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So out of curiosity, is it much easier for a guy to get a vasectomy when he brings his wife or significant other with him? Or is coming in as a single guy just as easy?

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