BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids New here, unsure of the future....

Dr. Phil always says, when it comes to kids, the 'one that don't want wins.'

I would never give in on that point unless you are absolutely sure.

I just posted about a similar issue. I'm dating right now and see that it will be hard to find a man who doesn't want kids. I almost feel as if men have no right to say they want kids when their biggest part of the effort is their sperm. You're in a pickle but like another post mentioned you may have to find a guy who feels the same as you. But just remember IT'S YOUR BODY !

that is a really great quote by dr.phil. although i don't always agree with what he says i really like his viewpoint on having children issue.he's one of the few who really seems to be realistic about the children issue and if you check out his website he doesn't sugarcoat having children either. considering he has two children i think it's cool.i'm more cf than my husband. he could care less either way so i was the one who made the final decision. he said that if i would have told him even before we got married(i told him much later b./cthat's when i realized i really didn
t want children) that he would have still married me. i feel very lucky that way.
indigo

Thanks for all the advice and support! I am so glad I finally found a forum for folks who feel the way I do about the kid issue. Although I believe that my boyfriend would say the same (in other words, that he'd like a kid, but would rather have me and no kid than not have me at all), I'm just not sure. I need to talk to him more about it. Fortunately, we are both very open and honest with each other, and can easily talk about things like this. I would never, NEVER have a kid just to "keep" him, but we complement each other so well that I would really be sad to lose him. I really want to talk about all of this with him NOW because it's bugging me so much, but wWe are attending a friend's wedding this weekend in VA Beach and I just don't think that it is the proper time for such a deep discussion.

I deeply appreciate the fact that all of you are here on this forum. THANK YOU!