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i ment that to be funny btw i did not mean to hurt feeling when i replied to the intouch with femimin side i am not as ignoreit as that made me sound i must have post it when i was in insomenact mode i have not got much sleep this week so i am sorry it no excuse. <img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Hey...It's cool, Freebubbles....Don't sweat it - one thing I know about women on this board is that we have a good sense of humour...especially about men. And men do leave themselves wide open to it, at times - !!

Chill - no problems as far as I am concerned - !! <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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great. because i tend to laugh at anything i find funny weather it is PC or not and weather i believe in the streotype or not. and when i get tired sometime they pop into my head i think hey thats funny and offend people...oops. thanks for understanding!!!

to get back to the topic, i found a good reason not to have kids. the other day my niebors kid came over and i was in the back and the door was open so he came in which is usually of with me because he doesnt come over but maybe every twoweeks. but my house tense to be...not child prove ..so i had a book on the table and you got it was not the kids vertion cinderalla!!! it did not have pic and he couldnot read but he was looking at it (he like to pretend to read) i asked him was he was reading and he said Superman. I nearly died...

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Sex in the living room.

<img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />oops busted at lest kids stayout of my sock draw! and now i no why my mom freacked out wen i was little and like to explore!!! ooh no bad pic i have to go wash my brain now... <img src="/images/graemlins/beamedup.gif" alt="" />

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I hope no one minds me jumping in on this topic, but I wanted to say that our sex life actually got better after having children. We always had a terrific sex life, very passionate, and I don't know why it seemed to somehow get even better. I think it had something to do with we felt so much closer after having children together. We have always been close, but our marriage in total just got better and continues to do so, post-children. I would go so far as saying our SL is better than decent.

I also wanted to point out a myth that I saw someone here post - it's never the same "for obvious reasons." I beg to differ (and my DH would as well), and I would just add that there are 'little things' the docs can do before you leave the hospital, or even later, to correct that or even make it better than "it" was before. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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I had looked into it pre-children/while pregnant because all of my single friends (and childfree) used to say "It's never EVER the same 'down there,' which, of course, worried me a LOT because we had great sex and I didn't want it to be ruined. So I read all I could both before kids and while pregnant, and it turns out, I didn't need to worry, even after having two children. Of course, I didn't have any tearing or cutting either, so that very well could make a difference - I don't know.

Well, for those who don't want to go that route, I suppose there are always the dreaded kegel exercises...lol.

I actually think there is hope for others out there! I think it's sad that people's sex lives are ruined post-children. It really doesn't have to be that way.