It is not shame to share money! It is shame to be lazy, intentionally don�t work and then ask for partner�s money. But it is not shame to share your money together. Many men�s working position are much better paid than women�s, and women can�t even work many men�s work (such as construction etc.). Many works are also underpaid (such as government jobs), although they are valuable jobs. It is good to be self-confident for the case that You will split up, to be sure you can stay on your own, but as long as You are in relationship, it is not shame to share Your money. Is it shame to share your love together? Obviously not. And isn�t love more than money?
I re-write some words, which will express myself in most precious way.
�In my opinion, the first law of money should be part of the marriage ceremony itself: People first, then money.
Financial intimacy may be the most profound closeness there is. Many confide fears and painful stories of our pasts, and we certainly share our hopes and vision for the future. But to talk about money? Possible the last frontier of intimacy.
The two of you will be richer together, in every way, than you would be on your own. Two people contributing small sums of money, can build up a fortune much, much faster than one person. Two people working at it together can make a mortgage vaporize or send their children through school. Two people together create a life with greater depth and texture and richness than most of us can on our own. That�s what marriage or living together, at its best, is about and it implies a full commitment.
In some cases, your fortunes can grow by leaps and bounds if you both work, and learn to live on one salary. I have good friends who met and married when they were both thirty-five, knowing full well that the woman, an attorney, would always make more than her husband, who works for the city. Their decision? To live on her salary, which would provide a comfortable but not luxurious life for them together, and invest every single penny of his. That was twelve years ago, and today, they both know that within three years they will have enough money to live on comfortably forever if they no longer want to work. Their commitment was to each other and to their future, but it was their financial commitment to the marriage that built the fortune and made their dream materialize. No fine lines here of �yours�, �mine�, �ours.� It was all �ours�.
Or take the arrangements in which one party stays home and the other goes to work every day. Here�s another chance to build great fortunes, if that�s the direction the commitment takes. Only one set of professional clothes in this household, perhaps only one car. One salary keeps the family in a lower tax bracket, and the stay-at-home spouse, according to the couple�s agreement, cares for the house and the working partner can devote his or her full energy to making money. Old-fashioned? Maybe. But if it�s a whole-life commitment you�re talking about, and it makes domestic and fiscal sense, this can be the road to riches�.
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The COURAGE to Be RICH by Suze Orman Page 155, 156
(I am sorry for very long post).