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Hey Firefly!

I did a term paper waaaaay long ago on telepathy in regards to family; specifically on twins and on the mother/child bond.

I won't get into the twin thing here (we've all heard it, but it is fascinating), but the mother bond is amazingly strong! First to consider that for approximately 9 months you and your child are completely attached to each other. Then for the first year or two, this same child is completely dependant upon you for all of her needs. If you happen to breastfeed (as i did my daughter for the 1st year), then you still have that physical connection. Then you add in genes and science, and all sorts of things that people can't explain about the human mind; and it makes you wonder.

Mom's often know when their children are in danger, whether they are close or not. But when a mother and child have been close throughout early childhood, then I believe the chance for a telepathic connection is even greater.

When I went thru my divorce, Jordan was only 1, yet she vomited almost every day - her pediatrician felt she was developing a pre-ulcerous condition. I had already weaned her from breast - so I don't feel I was giving her "bad milk" due to my stress, but she felt it none the less. When I have my screaming nightmares, Jordan & Seth both tend to sleep erratically, but Jordan especially. When I have my black depression days or am sick, they both come down in temperment and in patience with me (which does not make for a happy household for my poor husband!)

But it is my daughter that is the most closely tuned to me, whether it is because we are of the same sex, or because I was able to breastfeed her longer than the two boys I don't know. Michael has never had that kind of bond with me (outside of his infacy - past 2 yr old), I'm assuming because of his Asperger's - he's very inward focused.

Maybe you have the same type mother/daughter mental- soul bond that so many have; that is not necessarily a twin flame thing, but is just a mother thing.

Hello, this is my first posting. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Two months ago I met a man who I felt connected with immediately. So much so it was scary. We had coffe together once, emailed several times, chatted and I went to his place once and we talked for seven hours. Then a week later he tells me his life is a wreck and "things won't be too exciting for a while". I haven't heard from him since. Friends have told a friend of mine he isn't speaking to anyone. Now here is my question. I have met a lot of men over the years, I can't get this one out of my head. I feel so connected even though I barely know him. While we were talking at his place I asked him if he believed in past lives and he said yes. At the time I was hoping to have the guts to ask if he felt the same connection. He is in my dreams nightly and I keep thinking (since the moment I met him) about how much I have missed him.

Has anyone ever had an experience like this? If so any advice on how to deal with it? I know if he was into me he would be calling etc. However I can't get this feeling out of my head that he feels the same connection. Does this sound like a twin flame situation?

Hello Skystars and welcome!

Yes this does sound like a twin flame situation, or at the very least a soulmate that you have been with in a past life. I can't be with my twin flame & miss him like no-one else in the world, it's hard to cope with sometimes.

Don't assume though that he isn't into you because he doesn't contact you. I'm sure your man will have felt that connection too- it's hard to miss something that strong. He may be scared by it. You also don't know what else is going on for him right now, give him space and time to sort himself out.

If it is meant to work out the guides will keep pulling away at all the strings and whispering in his ear, so don't give up hope.

I see your point. Our bond is very strong, and not even death can break it. <img src="/images/graemlins/heart.gif" alt="" />

This is semi-embarassing for me, I'm kind of a "shy" person.. but really-- this is very difficult to contain any longer and finding this forum seems Godsent. I thank all of you for posting your experiences; even though I don't know any of you, you have helped me. I guess I should get on with the story.

About two years ago(I'm not quite sure of the date, I'll have to ask him), I met someone accidently and the feeling I got when he showed me his picture was ..I can't even explain it. I swore to him on everything that I was that I knew him. Somehow. He said the same, which intrigued me. We conversated for what must have been six or more hours. It seemed like forever, but in that little time, we became extremely close. I instantly opened up to him and he did the same to me-- which wasn't normal for the either of us considering we're both not that trusting. We talked about everything from past experiences, religion, goals, pain.. you name it, we discussed it. We were always closer with each other than we were with anyone else. It has always been more intimate, much deeper.. I don't really know how to describe it. I had never felt this way before and I believed that nothing could top it, until I seen him face to face.

I walked into his house with my boyfriend at the time(his best friend) and as I entered his room, me and my boyfriend heard a loud crash. Apparently, someone had a little accident. My boyfriend walked into the bathroom and there he was, laying on the floor in a towel soaking wet with a toothbrush hanging out of his mouth. He slipped and fell, and my boyfriend thought it was hilarious but I couldn't find it in myself to laugh. I was lost. When I looked into his eyes, the feeling I got was electrifying. It stunned me, it stopped me dead in my tracks. When he stood up, he looked me in my face and I could feel exactly what he was feeling. I knew what he was thinking, I knew everything that was going on inside of him.. and little did I know, it was mutual. Despite the fact that he was soaking wet, I hugged him and wow, the feeling got more intense. I think of it and I can feel it. I feel my heart grow warmer, bigger. It makes me tremble.

Every time we see each other, our feelings for each other seem to get stronger. The bond, the connection-- it strengthens. I have never, ever experienced this before and I can barely believe that this is possible. When we are together, I see nothing but him. Everything else disappears from view, nothing could ever be more fascinating. We're always clinging to each other, holding each other, talking for hours. When it's time for either of us to leave, it hurts.. it hurts so much. Thinking of it makes me cry and I consider myself to be an extremely strong person. The last time I saw him was before Hurricane Katrina and just before he was getting out of the car, I had to unlock the handcuffs(it gets that serious) and it brought tears to my eyes to have to do it. My hand started shaking so terribly that I dropped the key. He had to do it. We held hands until he had to seriously get out of the car and when he was pulling his hand away, I could feel myself breaking in two. I lost that feeling of being whole, I lost the feeling of power, I almost lost myself in the moment. I would have cried my eyes out if I was alone in that car.

Now I am seperated from him and will be for a long time due to the hurricane. We're in two different states. He's coming to New Orleans to visit for Christmas.. I long for it, but I am so terrified at the same time. When I think about it, it rips me up inside. I know that we'll have to part again. If I could just explain how much pain that causes us both..

We can't find anything to classify this bond, this relationship under. I've been reading up on Twin Flames for a month or more. Everything I've found explains us, I haven't read a thing about it that says "no". What do you think?

P.S.: I apologize for this being so long. I could go on about it forever. <img src="/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Hello Pins & welcome to Bellaonline <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Don't apologise for the length of your post!

Everything you've described says 'twin flame' to me- although I haven't got to the handcuff stage <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I have the same 'wrenched apart' feeling whenever I leave my twin flame. It sometimes makes it too painful to carry on seeing him at all. We can't be together & it hurts to be apart, so I do empathise.

Those people who actually get to have a full on 'normal' relationship with their twin flame are lucky indeed aren't they? Good luck with yours. The encouraging news is that once you've found your 'twin' the bond is there, however thin it gets stretched, he feels it too.

Pins,

I totally understand what you mean about having this feeling when you look into his eyes. I experienced the same thing. However I haven't seen or spoken to this man in over a month. <img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I think about him all the time.

I am curious, what happened to your boyfriend? Is he and this man still friends?

Thank you! I love this forum, I've been reading a lot of the topics and posts. Spent almost two hours doing so last night. <img src="/images/graemlins/rolling.gif" alt="" />

I handcuffed him to me to show him that I didn't want him to go, I wanted him to stay next to me. He understood. Somehow he always understands.

I agree. They are very lucky, I wish I could have a "normal" relationship with my twin. It seems like everytime we get close to having one, something pulls us apart.

If you don't mind my asking; what are some of the "somethings". Maybe we can figure out a way to protect or "ward off" if we know more about what keeps keeping you apart. However if it is age difference, parents, and one of you is a minor - it might take a bit of doing...

Can you give us more detail?

Sure thing. It used to be things like his job, not having enough money or a way to get to each other, random deaths, me being a minor(sigh). Our schedule's would collide a lot also. Now, though, hurricane Katrina has seperated us. He's in Indiana and I am in Virginia. We found a way around that, I was going to get a plane ticket back to New Orleans so I could see him while he visited for Christmas.. but my grandfather recently let my Uncle, his three kids, his girlfriend and my aunt move in with him. I have no place to go now. <img src="/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Quite frustrating.