BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids people and their obnoxious questions

I too have had those obnoxious people try to get me to "change my mind." My husband and I dont like kids! Our pets are our kids=)
I always respond to peole who tell me "oh, you'll change your mind, you're still very young, blah blah blah..." that I believe there are way way too many people in the world destroying the world, why would I want to contribute to that?
And if they still bug me about it, I just tune them out, ignoring their ignorance.

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(For most people having children is a means of becoming immortal. We cannot live forever that is why we produce offspring that will carry our genes, and consequently will look and behave like we do. Children are our miniatures, later when they grow up, they become us. And so we are immortal, in a way.)

Aren't kids supposed to be less like their parents when they grow up? If they "become" their parents, why even leave the house? Don't they deserve to become their own individual person? I thought having kids meant creating new individuals who, although they may look like us superficially, become adults of their own right.

Sorry for all the ?'s, but I do not think that having kids will make a person immortal. Are people that egocentric that they think their genes are that superior, or do they feel that catapulting their DNA into the future will give a chance for their descendants to accomplish the hopes & dreams they themselves did not?

Also, I was not a miniature of my parents. My likes & talents & personality were very different from theirs. My mother was a nurse, yet I have no inclination to be a nurse. As an adult, I have not become a replacement for my parents. I have even less in common with my grand & great grandparents. Besides, I only share about 1/8 to 1/16th of their genes.

I feel bad for kids I see whose parents try to "recreate" a copy of themselves, then expect the child to live up to the task. How sad.

I feel people make a difference for the future by the accomplishments and positive influences they have on others now, when they are alive. These are the things that really live on when were gone. "But, you're genes will die out" is a weak argument today. We are far from the brink of extinction.

I would rather have a positive effect on someone that they remember & take with them, like a painting, poem, teaching someone something, or being a mentor to a kid whose neglected. Likewise, many people that do not share my genes have powerfully impacted me for the better and I will pass that on to those in my future.

Having kids is far from making you immortal. Regaurdless of whether or not a person has kids THEY WILL STILL DIE. And, as Stormy touched on, as each generetion goes on the genetic material that you passed on will go from 1/2 to 1/4 (these percentages vary according to if you are male or female, children get 51% of the mothers genes)...and after just a few short generations will be so diluted they will be almost not existant. When people try to use the argument that I should have kids to have my genes live on I ask them "What is so [censored] great about my genes that I absolutely have to pass them on?"

Yeah, and if our genes never changed by half each generation, then we would've never evolved at all.

I quite agree, however I wouldn�t call it �a means for becoming immortal�, but unconscious instinctive desire for keeping a species.