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Hello, I'm almost 29, married 7 years, together 11. We always thought kids was the next step in life. Now after some reflection we have both come to the conclusion that we love being CF!! We have so much wonderful time together, watching old movies, going out to eat, sleeping in, and ohhhhh the quiet! It's bliss!

Please introduce yourselves!

Hi,
I am 38 soon to be 39. I have been married to my husband for 8 years. He is 29...we need to get on the Oprah older woman/younger man show--hehehe....anyway.
We get tired of arguing with everyone. My husband likes kids when they are fishing, that's it. I like kids but in small doses. We always said if it happened by some divine intervention we would never kill our child, we'd have it and do the best we can. But by choice we don't feel we are the type of people to raise and nurture another human being.
Thanks for everyone here reaching out so we know we aren't crazy.

Hi,
I'm 28 and have been married 10 years. Yes, I got married young, but I'm very happy with my choice. My husband and I had talked about having kids before we were married and it was just an assumed thing that we would someday, although we both wanted to wait several years. We both love our niece and nephews and get along with children in general, but we're well aware of the added stress and responsibility having our own would bring. After much thought, we have decided to remain child free. I am going to school to be an elementary school teacher of all things, but like I said, I do enjoy being around children. I am interested in helping children and being a role model for them, but I would rather devote my time to helping the MANY children who already exist rather than reproducing myself. Having my own children would be require a lifetime financial, emotional, and time committment. So many people tell me if I wait for everything to be perfect, I'll never have kids. Well, so be it. Shouldn't we make sure we're in the best possible situation to raise kids before having them? If we can't ever achieve that ideal situation, the responsible thing to do is restrain ourselves. The child will pay the ultimate price if we are not ready or do not want him/her. We know that it would be a huge financial struggle for us, but we have also discovered several other reasons we want to remain childless. We are very content with our peaceful, quiet life at home after work. We enjoy being able to go out to eat on a whim, take a weekend trip, go hiking, sleep in, and pursue hobbies. We also have more time to devote to helping others in the family or community. The only worry I have about not having children is when we grow old. I see elderly people around me who become very ill and have adult children who help take care of them. At their funerals are numerous descendants who loved and cared for them. However, I know there is no guarantee that our children would be there for us. And I don't think that is a good reason to have children if that is our only reason. Our families wish we would have kids, but they are not pushy about it. We feel bad for them, but we realize we are the ones who would be making the sacrifices and dealing with the day to day challenges. It is our choice, and we are happy just the way we are. How many people can honestly say that?

Hi I'm Candy. I've known since the age of 9 that I would never have children. I never desired them nor wanted them. I am married to a wonderful man who also doesn't want children and we are very happy. I am founder of the Charlotte, NC chapter of NO KIDDING!, a social club for people who have never had children. I also (with the help of my friend in St. Louis) co-chaired and started the annual NO KIDDING! conventions, the first of which was in Las Vegas. We are very happy with our childfree friends in the club. My personalized tag on my car says: KIDS?NO! I get a lot of compliments on it.

Nice to meet everyone!

Candy

Hi I am Kat. I am 24 and have never had the desire to have kids. My man, who I plan on spending the rest of my life with but never marrying, got a vasectomy in October last year. Right now I am a college student studying sports medicine in San Jose. After graduate school I plan to travel the world, yet another reason to not have children aside from not liking them and having no maternal instincts.

Hi, Wow! When I first posted a while ago, this forum was dead! I am CF, married to Dh for 6 years, been together for
12 years. I always got nervous at the thoughts of having my life run by another human dependant totally on me!
The liability issues didn't sit well with me either! So, I have four furbabies instead. I live in San Diego, Ca. DH and I both work full time for the same company, but in different departments. I have no friends who are CF, and basically no friends except those I meet here, and at No Kidding Forum.

I have no CF coworkers either, well, I had one but she quit.
It is nice to see this board expanding like it is!

Hi! I'm 38, almost 39. A newly-divorced, child-free animal-loving Scorpio. Never liked kids even as a kid. I've known I wanted to be childfree since about the age of 6 - around the time I realized I didn't like play babies - I'd dress my stuffed animals up instead. Then came Barbies! This affirmed suspicions of my wanting to be childfree. Mine were power-career Barbies with lots of boyfriends; always vacationing to fabulous and far away places, hosting lavish parties, doing volunteer work for the good of animals, living in luxurious homes, and wearing awesome clothes! While my life is not *QUITE* like my Barbie's was, I'm at least childfree, I've got a great man and my pets!

Hi, I'm 24, married a little over two years. My husband and I are currently discussing what happens next with the kids' issue. I am yet undecided about whether I want kids at all, but even if we do, we might adopt. We know that a lot of kids have a hard time getting adopted after a certain age, and we're considering helping out there. Although birth is not out of the question yet, this is just part of the decision making process. That's actually why I came to this board. The CF perspective is not one that I get very often, and I consider it valuable when trying to figure out what direction we really want to go. Anyway, we're also enjoying aspects of CF life, all that you've just mentioned, and we love animals.

I'm 24 and one of the few males in this forum. I have made the decision to be CF months ago, and I'm happy to meet others who feel the same.

I'm 33. Married 2 years.

Never in my life ever wanted kids. The thought is so absolutely bizarre -- it's like imagining myself as a math professor or a movie star. Cannot picture it, even using all the force of my imagination.

Hubby is coming around to my way of thinking. He's 30.

As to kids, don't like how they talk, smell, act, play, or eat.