I wonder what are the statistics of the childfree community's life. Only children vs. kids with siblings? Where we fall in the family (for instance, I'm the last of 4). Age separation of siblings, etc...? I wonder if there is any common thread to pull most of us together. Hmm...
Gosh Dolyn,
I think this would be a wonderful study you could put your scientific mind to and then have it published!
I'm the youngest of three boys.. oldest 7 yrs. older middle 5 yrs. older. Raw statistics would be much easier to obtain, but in my case there were cultural factors involved. My father is first generation who survived the WWII labor camps. My mom survived the depression with a womanizing violent father. We had a live-in uncle who was a confirmed bachelor because he chose to take care of his aging parents after the war. No girls in the home and no female cousins geographically close meant that there was never ever a baby in the house... ever. Money, Money, Money was all the girls I dated ever wanted. My dad retired when I was 19 to another state. I followed because I was young and stupid and didn't know what I was gonna do... Then I started living with more mature and evolved women when I was 19. After many relationships and heartache I pretty much gave up on the notion until I was 39. I met Connie on-line in 1999 before it was fashionable dahling. It really piqued my interest when you mentioned that your family pushed the baby's needs on you at a very early age. That's what happened to Connie. Her sister had Jeff out of wedlock, and he became her entire responsibility at age 13. Connie's dad died when she was 17, and her mother was abusive so she married and had a boy and a girl. All of our lives in our separate worlds, we were always ' homebodies ' and never did care to much for the running around and the partying. Also, we sure didn't like all the junk that orthodox religions were spouting so we started doing our own research separately and ended up both finding and applying the mystical traditions that rang more closely to our hearts. Long before she met me, she told her ex that as soon as these kids are raised... I'm outta here... so I'm not a home wrecker. But God did not release her until the time was right... Then she filed for divorce and here we are. I think you stated that you were an atheist, and that's cool... any thinking, reasoning person who has to put a roof over their head, finish school, get meals, clothes, transportation, yada, yada... doesn't have time to argue for 400 years over one passage in the bible for Christ's sake... but for us, we needed a deeper walk. My point being is that we are a childfree couple and it is absolutely perfect and we wouldn't have it any other way !!
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