Hey everyone. So i finally found the time to have this talk with my husband. i had the initial freak out on him when i found out, but yesterday i had the calm, thought out talk. He says he understand why i was so upset and that he wont be talking to her anymore about me or us. What really shocked me and angered me was him saying, i didnt know those things were private. Hello??? Duhh! of course they are private and personal!! i hate that we werent even on the same page when it came to that. he says he's not as private of a person as i am and thats why he thought talking to her was ok. i explained many ways and reasons why this is not acceptable. unfortunately i am left in a position where i just need to trust that it wont happen again. the first time it really angered me was last year and i told him it really bothered me, yet he did it again! how do i know that this time, for real, he wont do it again and wont think, "its stupid that i cant talk about this, and she wont find out anyway..." i hate not trusting him but i cant trust him about this at this point. i just have to wait n see... i'm just scared that it will happen again and i wont know. the only reason i knew about it this time was because i read his email. (we have some other trust issues which resulted in me knowing all his passwords..) what if i havent been nosey enough in the past to catch him every time? i hate this. anyways, just wanted to let you know that we did have the talk, he said he understands... i told him that i'm sure he wouldnt want me spurting out his personal business to my friends or the EX and he agreed. just wish he "really" felt the same way as i did, because if he understood how i felt and agreed with the privacy issue, then he wouldnt have spoken to her in the first place.
ugh
thanks for your support guys.
