hi megan! that word does get thrown at us a lot, doesn't it? I can tell you, I am soooo sick of hearing it. who said it to you? what did you say in response? I think people who say that are incredibly small minded. period. they want you to conform and be just like them. while I agree with other posts here, it never fails to surprise me when someone has the gall to say you are selfish cause you are not having kids. I read an article on MSNBC that said some women keep getting pregnant cause that is the only time they feel special and important...well, creating life for your own self esteem sounds very selfish to me!